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I grown up in a Single Family system. I lived happily with my mother,father 2 sisters and 1 brother.We enjoyed good days and black nights together. My Maternal and Paternal relatives used to say publically that it is imposible that I am able to complete my studies.I did it then they said I am not able to get a job. I got a job which is away from my town.I moved there. They annoyed my family. They try to humilate my family. They said you are liar,cheater and self centered. My Uncles always try to degrade me in front of others . I quit every thing. They expected that I marry one of their daughters when i became sucessful. I cut my self out of my family.I love my mother,father, sisters and brother but I hate every realtive.I can do any thing for my family but not for others.I dont want to keep contact with my relatives. I wanna know whether I do it right by rejecting my cousins or not, whether My decision from cutting off from my family is right or wrong.


Please try to be serious because it is very important for me and my family.My request to admin and mods to made this topic sticky for few days until i find my answer.


Thankyou
Posted 02 May 2005

Ashii says
freddy puter kidher rehte hein aap
i know a MOTHER jo apni aulad ko bad'dua bhi deti hein,,, aur phir sab ko darati bhi rehti hein yeh keh k that see me ne jo kaha tha poora hua


Allah maaf kare sab ko aur seedha rasta dikhae...





teeen dabba ab yeh na ho k aap over confident ho k choray hi ho ja'ain,,, first thing wakai yeh k apne gireban mei jhankna chaiye,, kabhi apni galti bhi nikal aati hai,,, aur agar koi bura hai to usse samjhao, nahi samajhta then ignore,,, par uss k saath bura na karo

baat chali gai na dimag mei,, chalo ab dabba band......
Posted 04 May 2005

Doctor Sam says
TeenTracker said:

I grown up in a Single Family system. I lived happily with my mother,father 2 sisters and 1 brother.We enjoyed good days and black nights together. My Maternal and Paternal relatives used to say publically that it is imposible that I am able to complete my studies.I did it then they said I am not able to get a job. I got a job which is away from my town.I moved there. They annoyed my family. They try to humilate my family. They said you are liar,cheater and self centered. My Uncles always try to degrade me in front of others . I quit every thing. They expected that I marry one of their daughters when i became sucessful. I cut my self out of my family.I love my mother,father, sisters and brother but I hate every realtive.I can do any thing for my family but not for others.I dont want to keep contact with my relatives. I wanna know whether I do it right by rejecting my cousins or not, whether My decision from cutting off from my family is right or wrong.


Please try to be serious because it is very important for me and my family.My request to admin and mods to made this topic sticky for few days until i find my answer.


Thankyou



Assalam-o-alekum TT..
main ne aap ki baat ko achi tarah parha hey lekin mujhe ye samajh nahi aayi k aap k relatives aisa kion ker rahay hain...

anyway wo jo bhi kar rahay hon aor jis waja se bhi ker rahay hon...aap ne kuch baatain yaad rakhni hain...
Aap ne khud ko un k level pe nahi le k aana..Theek hey un ko avoid kerain.. na milain lekin agar kahien un se mulaqaat ho jaye to apnay elder relatives se respect se baat kerain.. kion k ye aap ka farz hey.. Wo jo kertay hain, un ka her amal ALLAH TA'ALA dekh raha hey...

Hamesha koshish kijye ga , agar aapko koi hurt kerta hey to aap kisi ko hurt na kerain kion k u can feel the pain..us ko bhi nahi jis ne aapko hurt kiya..

agar aap meri baat ka reply kerain aor is pe argue kerain to mujhe khushi ho gi..

ALLAH HAFIZ
Posted 04 May 2005

joker says

TT bahii app alone nahii hooo har dosry insan kay sath yay masla haiii ya insan koay sath asa hota haii
main par raha hoon laken mera bi app wala masla haii
koyii nahii hota haii life haii na
TeenTracker said:

I grown up in a Single Family system. I lived happily with my mother,father 2 sisters and 1 brother.We enjoyed good days and black nights together. My Maternal and Paternal relatives used to say publically that it is imposible that I am able to complete my studies.I did it then they said I am not able to get a job. I got a job which is away from my town.I moved there. They annoyed my family. They try to humilate my family. They said you are liar,cheater and self centered. My Uncles always try to degrade me in front of others . I quit every thing. They expected that I marry one of their daughters when i became sucessful. I cut my self out of my family.I love my mother,father, sisters and brother but I hate every realtive.I can do any thing for my family but not for others.I dont want to keep contact with my relatives. I wanna know whether I do it right by rejecting my cousins or not, whether My decision from cutting off from my family is right or wrong.


Please try to be serious because it is very important for me and my family.My request to admin and mods to made this topic sticky for few days until i find my answer.


Thankyou

Posted 04 May 2005

motoo ,Dr and HH thanx aap kay comments acchay lage main ne kab kaha kay mere ghaltee nahin hay. kuch ghaltyan mere bhi hain. malsan main akela rehna pasand karta tha to mujhe un ko samjhne ka moka hi nahin mila.Lekin unlogon ki taraf se itne ilzamat milne kay baad bhi abhi apni behn ki shadee main un sab se mulaqat hui to sab se acchi tarh mila lekin is ka matlab hi sab ne ghalat liya zara se baat par mere mother ki insult ki ab aap hi batain jo log mere mother ki izzat nahin karsakte jaisay mere mamoon ,mere khala woh mujh se kia apni izzat karwana expect karsakte hain.

Sahee kaha yeh sab kay sath hota hay


main apni ghaltion ko manta hoon k main apne reltives ko nahin janta tha na un se milna pasand karta tha leiin us ki itni baree saza to nahin milni chahye
Posted 04 May 2005

joker says
Yw
i know TT jo insan humrii family ki izzat nahii ker sukta hum us ki kasay ker sukty hain....
but TT humry ger waly apnain hasiab say sochty hain and hum apnain...
humain yay cheezain buri lagti hain
but u know ger waly yay sochty hain kay humry rishtydar hum say naraz na ho jayain and main to samjha tha app kay chacha etc asay hoon gy laken yahan to baat hi asay logo ki ho rahii haiii joo to had say zayda kareeb hoty hain
Posted 04 May 2005

mujhe apni immediate family se koi shikayat nahin hay.woh bahut caring hain lekin mere parents kay behn bhai i hate them
Posted 04 May 2005

Doctor Sam says
TeenTracker said:

motoo ,Dr and HH thanx aap kay comments acchay lage main ne kab kaha kay mere ghaltee nahin hay. kuch ghaltyan mere bhi hain. malsan main akela rehna pasand karta tha to mujhe un ko samjhne ka moka hi nahin mila.Lekin unlogon ki taraf se itne ilzamat milne kay baad bhi abhi apni behn ki shadee main un sab se mulaqat hui to sab se acchi tarh mila lekin is ka matlab hi sab ne ghalat liya zara se baat par mere mother ki insult ki ab aap hi batain jo log mere mother ki izzat nahin karsakte jaisay mere mamoon ,mere khala woh mujh se kia apni izzat karwana expect karsakte hain.

Sahee kaha yeh sab kay sath hota hay


main apni ghaltion ko manta hoon k main apne reltives ko nahin janta tha na un se milna pasand karta tha leiin us ki itni baree saza to nahin milni chahye



dekhain , aapki mother ki izzat unhon ne nahi ki to aapko bura laga na.. kisi ki izzat na kerne se ya uski insult kerne se (bilawaja)usko to shayad koi faraq nahi parta, lekin jo aisa karta hey uski apni izzat khatam ho jati hey...

aap ne kisi elder person k sath aisa salook nahi kerna, jesa aap chahtay hain k aap k parents k sath koi na karay..
Allah Ta'ala se duaa kiya kerain k sab problems solve ho jaien...

Aaameen.
Posted 04 May 2005

~CHANDNI~ says
DR APP KO KIYA HOA
Posted 04 May 2005

Sum Ameen


main aisa chahta bhi nahi hoon isi liye un ki shakal bhi nahin dekhna chahta
Posted 04 May 2005

~CHANDNI~ says
KIN   KI BHAI
Posted 04 May 2005

tumhe to sab pata hay paree
Posted 04 May 2005

~CHANDNI~ says
is   hi liye to    kah rahy hoon pari kay bhai yah donya hya yah sab chalta hay
Posted 04 May 2005

isi liye main Dont care sitiation main aa gaya hoon
Posted 04 May 2005

Dear JB Frndz and Modz


I have come to a conclusion with advice of My Friends that

1) I should keep a noticeable distance between me and those relatives
2) I must care for my family rest is nothing for me
3) I am not going to cross my limits of decency
4) Do what they want but i am not let them to interfaring my matters


this is the decision i took after discussing with My Frndz

I am very thankful to all of you

mzaid
WAFA
cutefriend
kash_beauty (for making the topic sticky and many more)
faradiya (for his logical advice)
SohniKuddi
SALL
Bazigar
shahrukh khan
M!Ss Trouble
Asian
Doctor Sam
heart__hacker
and last but not the least SABZ PARI who helped me a lot when I need some body's help


I have no words to thank all of you ppl who participated or not.


My request for mods since the conclusion is come to end so i request to close this topic


Thankyou once again

TeenTracker
Posted 04 May 2005

joker says
Yw
Posted 04 May 2005

Doctor Sam says
no need to say thanks TT...

u r always welcome..

Posted 04 May 2005

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