i did not want to ask this but since i could not find the answer on my own,i seek your help specially badal and s.d.and all...we all know who r mehrems and who r namehrems but how should we treat namehrems?i mean the societies all around the world r getting more and more liberal and free.everyday we have to deal with so many namehrems,regardless of who we r and what we do.so what exactly r the orders of sharia regarding this?in what manner should we talk to them,can we sit with them in offices,transports etc.can we have lunch with them.can we talk to them on internet where we cant see them.etc.etc.
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hmm.... its clearly said in surah Noor i think abhi exact ayat nahi pata mujhe,, i can search if u want im sure Z or SD know better than me
mehram aurat aur mard dono k hote hein,, last time i asked that question to a friend who is Masha Allah vv religious and he is agains working women coz he said majboori k bager namehram k saath baat karna, uss k samne jana galt hai,, and i said tumhare office mei bhi to larkiyan kaam karti hein, jinn se tum baat bhi karte ho aur samne bhi jate ho,, unn ki taraf dekhte bhi ho aur jo k tumhare liye na-mehram hein hmmm... answer yahan batane ki kya zaroorat hai, u can imagine
hmm,, i think i-net or phone or samne jana takreeban aik hi baat hai,, when u chat someone on messenger to its like tum uss shaks se akele mei baat kar rahe ho same goes for phone calls
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I praise Allah and thank him for blessing us with the religion of Islam. I ask Allah to grant me correct understanding of this deen.
Islam teaches us etiquettes of dealing with Namehrams. 1. Allah is watching us all the time. If there are two people, allah is the third. if there are three people, Allah is the fourth... 2. He knows what's in the heart and mind. He will take account of that too. 3. Prophet SAW prohibited non-mehram man and woman (boy and girl) to meet in seclusion. Be it in a room, house, office, car, cafe, college, on the phone or even internet; secluded meetings are prohibited. This is becuause, as Prophet saw said, shaitan is their company. 4. Vain talk between non-mehrams are prohibited, because it leads to soft feelings for the other. 5. For education purposes, student may contact teacher but it must be within the purpose of education. This is because, wives of the prophet used to teach and answer questions of sahaba and tabaeen from behind the curtains (ruling in surat Ahzab).
there's a lot of info about this topic but that's the gist of it.
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from what s.d has told us,i think that all unnecessary conevrsation is not allowed,because if its normal today,who knows when it gets otherwise.so WE ALL R SINNERS
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I know but its not impossible. Allah's messenger gauranteed protection from fire for those who gaurd their tongue and their chastity from any shortcoming.
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yes,one thing that i feel is that we, me included, tend to b choosy abt religion,while we should take it as a whole,atleast we should accept is as a whole.ALLAH hamain deen per poori tarah amal ki tofeeq ata farmay.aameeeeen
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exactly,if we take it as a complete way of life,then i think hamari halat sudhar sakti he.but i would also like to add that individually no matter how much we try,we cant act completely on religion,unless the state is also islamic in true essence.individually hum sab itnay bigar chuke hain k i think jab tak hamain ijtimai tor per theek nahin kia jata we cant b true muslims.thats what i think
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hi me female........... sab se pehle mai apne baare mai batana chaahoongi k im 16 years old,or mai abhi 11 mai hoo,parda ka jaha tak taaluq hai to mai complete parda to nahi karti lakin jitna islaam mai farz hai wo karti hoo,jesa k mai jab bahar jaati hoo to apna dopatta is tara baandh leti hoo jesa k namaz mai baandhte hai,is tara mere saare baal chhup jaate hai,or is k ilawa mai is baat ka bhi khayal karti hoo k mai bahar jaarahi hoo to libaas tang or chust na pahnoo.........
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there are thousands dear who live in forign countries and still observe hijab.ALLAH is the most mercifull,HE does not ask us to do something that is beyond our capacity
