what if in your marriage your husband provides financially for you but not emotionally? should you just accept the financial or should you leave ? what is healthier love or finance?.
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lol you are right abot the financ part but money cant take your lonlieness away right ? so you have money food but the person you love is at work 7 days a week and comes home late and is always tired? isnt love important
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love is vry impp...n i disagree wid u YAS...if luv is dere in a relationship u can cope wid financial hardships i dun say its easy bt in dis case a lil bit of care is needed on da hubby's part as da wife has a rite 2 b loved by her hubby
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Sunzzz said:
love is vry impp...n i disagree wid u YAS...if luv is dere in a relationship u can cope wid financial hardships i dun say its easy bt in dis case a lil bit of care is needed on da hubby's part as da wife has a rite 2 b loved by her hubby
everyones unique,i think differently. Not everyone in this world gets everything they want, thaz life.
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yea finance can help yo everything costs somethng but love is also so important especially if you are so desperate for it and you are a loving cuddly person its hard not to get it back :) :(
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u have to move on in life, if a person u're with who dont love the way u love him/her, dump/divorce them n move on, otherwise u're jus stuck in one place.
every problem has a solution,and before every solution u make a decision, now its up to u if u can make that decision.
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There is some merit in your quest udaaslarki24. I respect all opinions but I'd like to expand on Ashi's word. Marriage is much bigger than mere $ and luv. They are small integral part of marriage. Its very easy in some people's mind of walking away from it just bcuz of an element of it is missing.
No one is perfect and am sure you are not perfect either. Instead of looking at the glass "half-empty", look at the glass "half-full." Count your blessings and be thankful of that. Now don't get me wrong here! In no way I condone your hubby's behavior. A successful marriage requires a balance. If one partner's behavior causes a disbalance, the other weighs-in a little more to balance till it is restored evenly.
Think in +ve ways the problem can be solved. Breaking away is never a solution, its an easy escape.
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listen he doesnt smile at me, he says hes got no time for me for everyone else he has time, but for me he does not iam lonley and misreable so if i leave one day maybe it will be a good thing i cant be lonley like this for the rest of my life u know the point of getting married is haveing someonees company and if he doesnt give it something is wrong
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udaaslarki24 said:
listen he doesnt smile at me, he says hes got no time for me for everyone else he has time, but for me he does not iam lonley and misreable so if i leave one day maybe it will be a good thing i cant be lonley like this for the rest of my life u know the point of getting married is haveing someonees company and if he doesnt give it something is wrong
yes u must move on, u live in a free country n u have a right to live a happy life, so if u can work something out u should.
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well.. this is the most common complaint that every wife makes ...but being a wife i think we shd realize that he is working for us to give us and our children better future..there shd be balance u cant expect him to be around u 24/7 ..well there shd be balance...but YES if he just party out and neglect you than u shd think seriously about it its matter of whole life...think practically
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udaaslarki24 said:
listen he doesnt smile at me, he says hes got no time for me for everyone else he has time, but for me he does not iam lonley and misreable so if i leave one day maybe it will be a good thing i cant be lonley like this for the rest of my life u know the point of getting married is haveing someonees company and if he doesnt give it something is wrong
wel y is he doing dis 2 u??mujhe samajh nai arahi i mean dere mus b sum reason na
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YAS said:
Sunzzz said:
love is vry impp...n i disagree wid u YAS...if luv is dere in a relationship u can cope wid financial hardships i dun say its easy bt in dis case a lil bit of care is needed on da hubby's part as da wife has a rite 2 b loved by her hubby
everyones unique,i think differently. Not everyone in this world gets everything they want, thaz life.
dats rite ever1 is diff n no1 gets everythng in life...dats wid evry1
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udaaslarki24 said:
listen he doesnt smile at me, he says hes got no time for me for everyone else he has time, but for me he does not iam lonley and misreable so if i leave one day maybe it will be a good thing i cant be lonley like this for the rest of my life u know the point of getting married is haveing someonees company and if he doesnt give it something is wrong
That is a problem! I agree wid sunz about what's bugging him and whyz he doin tht? You must see a marriage counselor.
Remember, "you can't give something you don't have." If he's not happy, he can't give happiness to you. If he is not talking to you, he must be talking to someone else. You must find that person and ask him/her about what's bothering him and why he's keeping aloof.
Let me ask you this. How long have you been married and has his behavior been like this since your marriage? Do you live with in-laws or in an extended family?
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