Assalam O Alaikum How are you All? A new topic from My side
*When someone hurts you or deeply disturbs you, do you forgive them and move on? Do you forget what they did to you or it always remains in your memory? Do you give them a second chance or never?
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Walaikumas Salaam Sun_shine. This is an interesting topic, I was wondering when a topic like this would come up in conversation.
Some people have hurt me in such a way that it is extremely hard for me to forgive & forget. Some things can be easily forgiven & forgotten while others are too hard to even think about letting go.
Some wounds are too deep & too raw to heal, depends how a person see's it. Others will do thing's deliberately that will literally tear a person's heart & soul & something like that is not that easily forgivable, at least not in my case, if someone hurt's my family, I could never let that slide, I'd want to cause as much pain as possible so that they'd know what it feel's like to inflict pain like that upon others.
But I also have to think about what Allah Tallah expects off me as a muslim aswell as a person, In Islam, we're expected to forgive those in order to have our own sins forgiven. I can understand that point & it should stand for every person but when one thinks about all the pain they have indured, forgiving can seem like an insult to one's soul.
I'd like to think that I could maybe just maybe one day forgive those who have hurt me, although realistically speaking, it's not going to happen for a very long time.
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Forgive kar dena boht mushkil kam hai... lekin ho jata hai... thori dair ki baat hoti hai... os kay baad sab khalaaaaas... but it is not in control of one to forget something specifically... agar aisa possible hota to har shaks talkh lamhaat ko bhula deta aur khobsurat lamhaat ko yaad rakh kar khush hota rehta... yeh zaror hota hai keh talkh batain mind kay kisi corner mai chup kar beth jati hain... and life goes on normal...
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MISS SCORPIO said:
Walaikumas Salaam Sun_shine. This is an interesting topic, I was wondering when a topic like this would come up in conversation.
Some people have hurt me in such a way that it is extremely hard for me to forgive & forget. Some things can be easily forgiven & forgotten while others are too hard to even think about letting go.
Some wounds are too deep & too raw to heal, depends how a person see's it. Others will do thing's deliberately that will literally tear a person's heart & soul & something like that is not that easily forgivable, at least not in my case, if someone hurt's my family, I could never let that slide, I'd want to cause as much pain as possible so that they'd know what it feel's like to inflict pain like that upon others.
But I also have to think about what Allah Tallah expects off me as a muslim aswell as a person, In Islam, we're expected to forgive those in order to have our own sins forgiven. I can understand that point & it should stand for every person but when one thinks about all the pain they have indured, forgiving can seem like an insult to one's soul.
I'd like to think that I could maybe just maybe one day forgive those who have hurt me, although realistically speaking, it's not going to happen for a very long time.
Yaa truly said Yaa Its somehow difficult in some situations to forgive.
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Rehan M Din said:
Forgive kar dena boht mushkil kam hai... lekin ho jata hai... thori dair ki baat hoti hai... os kay baad sab khalaaaaas... but it is not in control of one to forget something specifically... agar aisa possible hota to har shaks talkh lamhaat ko bhula deta aur khobsurat lamhaat ko yaad rakh kar khush hota rehta... yeh zaror hota hai keh talkh batain mind kay kisi corner mai chup kar beth jati hain... and life goes on normal...
yaa right Forget karna I think Na mumkin hain kyunki yeh hamaray bas main nahi.
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~Fragi~ said:
waisey tu mein kissi baat ko mind nai karta
but meri life mein ik aisa insaan tha jisko na maaf kar sakta hun na hee bhoool sakta hun
us k siwa easy come easy go
Yaa right Ek insaan ki ghalti aapko kitna disturb karti hain Uska dard boola dena buhat mushkil hain yaa Life is Easy per kuch log isay Buhat difficult bana detay hain.
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sun_shine said:
~Fragi~ said:
waisey tu mein kissi baat ko mind nai karta
but meri life mein ik aisa insaan tha jisko na maaf kar sakta hun na hee bhoool sakta hun
us k siwa easy come easy go
Yaa right Ek insaan ki ghalti aapko kitna disturb karti hain Uska dard boola dena buhat mushkil hain yaa Life is Easy per kuch log isay Buhat difficult bana detay hain.
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sun_shine said:
yaa Thats good jinho nay aik baar aisa kiya un k liye doosri baar karna kya mushkil ho sakta hain
bilkul aur yahan trust torna kuch aisa mushkil kaam nhi baaz auqat apko kisi ki asliyat sirf aik lafz ya line se pata chal jati hai phr apna time aur dumagh kharab kion kya jaye kisi pe trust kar k:)
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rapunzel said:
sun_shine said:
yaa Thats good jinho nay aik baar aisa kiya un k liye doosri baar karna kya mushkil ho sakta hain
bilkul aur yahan trust torna kuch aisa mushkil kaam nhi baaz auqat apko kisi ki asliyat sirf aik lafz ya line se pata chal jati hai phr apna time aur dumagh kharab kion kya jaye kisi pe trust kar k:)
