Forgive and Forget

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sun_shine

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Assalam O Alaikum
How are you All?
A new topic from My side

*When someone hurts you or deeply disturbs you,
do you forgive them and move on? Do you forget what they did to you or it always remains in your memory?
Do you give them a second chance or never?

Share your views and experience Here InshAllah
So Start.......
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Posted 08 May 2008

Walaikumas Salaam Sun_shine.
This is an interesting topic, I was wondering when a topic like this would come up in conversation.

Some people have hurt me in such a way that it is extremely hard for me to forgive & forget.
Some things can be easily forgiven & forgotten while others are too hard to even think about letting go.

Some wounds are too deep & too raw to heal, depends how a person see's it.
Others will do thing's deliberately that will literally tear a person's heart & soul & something like that is not that easily forgivable, at least not in my case, if someone hurt's my family, I could never let that slide, I'd want to cause as much pain as possible so that they'd know what it feel's like to inflict pain like that upon others.

But I also have to think about what Allah Tallah expects off me as a muslim aswell as a person, In Islam, we're expected to forgive those in order to have our own sins forgiven. I can understand that point & it should stand for every person but when one thinks about all the pain they have indured, forgiving can seem like an insult to one's soul.

I'd like to think that I could maybe just maybe one day forgive those who have hurt me, although realistically speaking, it's not going to happen for a very long time.
Posted 09 May 2008


Forgive kar dena boht mushkil kam hai... lekin ho jata hai... thori dair ki baat hoti hai... os kay baad sab khalaaaaas...
but it is not in control of one to forget something specifically... agar aisa possible hota to har shaks talkh lamhaat ko bhula deta aur khobsurat lamhaat ko yaad rakh kar khush hota rehta...
yeh zaror hota hai keh talkh batain mind kay kisi corner mai chup kar beth jati hain... and life goes on normal...

Posted 09 May 2008

~Fragi~ says
waisey tu mein kissi baat ko mind nai karta


but meri life mein ik aisa insaan tha
jisko na maaf kar sakta hun na hee bhoool sakta hun


us k siwa easy come easy go
Posted 09 May 2008

sun_shine says
MISS SCORPIO said:

Walaikumas Salaam Sun_shine.
This is an interesting topic, I was wondering when a topic like this would come up in conversation.

Some people have hurt me in such a way that it is extremely hard for me to forgive & forget.
Some things can be easily forgiven & forgotten while others are too hard to even think about letting go.

Some wounds are too deep & too raw to heal, depends how a person see's it.
Others will do thing's deliberately that will literally tear a person's heart & soul & something like that is not that easily forgivable, at least not in my case, if someone hurt's my family, I could never let that slide, I'd want to cause as much pain as possible so that they'd know what it feel's like to inflict pain like that upon others.

But I also have to think about what Allah Tallah expects off me as a muslim aswell as a person, In Islam, we're expected to forgive those in order to have our own sins forgiven. I can understand that point & it should stand for every person but when one thinks about all the pain they have indured, forgiving can seem like an insult to one's soul.

I'd like to think that I could maybe just maybe one day forgive those who have hurt me, although realistically speaking, it's not going to happen for a very long time.



Yaa truly said
Yaa Its somehow difficult in some situations to forgive.
Posted 09 May 2008

sun_shine says
Rehan M Din said:


Forgive kar dena boht mushkil kam hai... lekin ho jata hai... thori dair ki baat hoti hai... os kay baad sab khalaaaaas...
but it is not in control of one to forget something specifically... agar aisa possible hota to har shaks talkh lamhaat ko bhula deta aur khobsurat lamhaat ko yaad rakh kar khush hota rehta...
yeh zaror hota hai keh talkh batain mind kay kisi corner mai chup kar beth jati hain... and life goes on normal...



yaa right
Forget karna I think Na mumkin hain
kyunki yeh hamaray bas main nahi.
Posted 09 May 2008

sun_shine says
~Fragi~ said:

waisey tu mein kissi baat ko mind nai karta


but meri life mein ik aisa insaan tha
jisko na maaf kar sakta hun na hee bhoool sakta hun


us k siwa easy come easy go



Yaa right
Ek insaan ki ghalti aapko kitna disturb karti hain
Uska dard boola dena buhat mushkil hain
yaa Life is Easy
per kuch log isay Buhat difficult bana detay hain.
Posted 09 May 2008

Rapunzel says
Waalaikum Assalam
mein mauf tu kar eti hon but ainda us pe trust nhi karti
Posted 09 May 2008

sun_shine says
yaa Thats good
jinho nay aik baar aisa kiya
un k liye doosri baar karna kya mushkil ho sakta hain
Posted 09 May 2008

~Fragi~ says
sun_shine said:

~Fragi~ said:

waisey tu mein kissi baat ko mind nai karta


but meri life mein ik aisa insaan tha
jisko na maaf kar sakta hun na hee bhoool sakta hun


us k siwa easy come easy go



Yaa right
Ek insaan ki ghalti aapko kitna disturb karti hain
Uska dard boola dena buhat mushkil hain
yaa Life is Easy
per kuch log isay Buhat difficult bana detay hain.


and it happens every where
Posted 09 May 2008

sun_shine says
yaa every where
Life Struggle ka doosra naam hain
Struggle har Insaan ko karni parti hain
Posted 09 May 2008

~Fragi~ says
yeah per forgive kar na ek bari sift hai ... per kabhi kaheen yeh use nahi karnee chaiyee
Posted 10 May 2008


kyun nahi use karni chahiye paa g...??
Posted 10 May 2008

Rapunzel says
sun_shine said:

yaa Thats good
jinho nay aik baar aisa kiya
un k liye doosri baar karna kya mushkil ho sakta hain



bilkul aur yahan trust torna kuch aisa mushkil kaam nhi
baaz auqat apko kisi ki asliyat sirf aik lafz ya line se pata chal jati hai phr apna time aur dumagh kharab kion kya jaye kisi pe trust kar k:)
Posted 10 May 2008

sun_shine says
~Fragi~ said:

yeah per forgive kar na ek bari sift hai ... per kabhi kaheen yeh use nahi karnee chaiyee



Assalam O Alaikum
I think maaf kar dena chahiye
but next time us person say door aur mohtaat raha jaye.
Posted 10 May 2008

sun_shine says
rapunzel said:

sun_shine said:

yaa Thats good
jinho nay aik baar aisa kiya
un k liye doosri baar karna kya mushkil ho sakta hain



bilkul aur yahan trust torna kuch aisa mushkil kaam nhi
baaz auqat apko kisi ki asliyat sirf aik lafz ya line se pata chal jati hai phr apna time aur dumagh kharab kion kya jaye kisi pe trust kar k:)


Assalam O Alaikum
Yaa Right Dear Friend...
Posted 10 May 2008

~Fragi~ says
nai kuch cheezoon per kuch logon ko maffi nahi mil sakti
Posted 11 May 2008

sun_shine says
Assalam O Alaikum

*yaa may be...!
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