Rehan M Din said:
wa-alaikum salam...
Alhamdolillah... Am fi9
sirf soch ki hadd tak to theek hai... jab khud per implement karnay ki baari aati hai to ham log boht si chezon ko ignore kar detay hain... kabhi yeh soch kar k hamaray aisay honay se kya farq parta hai... aur kabhi yeh soch kar k ham mai to aisi koi baat hai hi nahi jis ko burai kaha jae... ya phir kabhi ham apnay aap ko dekhtay hi nahi k ham mai kon kon si achai honi chahiye....
~Fragi~ said:infact hum log bohat short term approach k saath life guzar rahey hain ..
hum apni approach ko jis din long term kar lein gein us din hum soch sakien gein k hum kiya they aur kiya hain
Mere vichar se iski Do vajah hei.
danie said:Very nice thought Sun shine.
1)Koi bhi action se pahle hum sochate nahi hei ki iska reaction samne vaale par kya hoga.
2)Apni practical life mei hum responsive se jyada reactive hote hei.hame responce aur reaction ke beech ke fark ko samjhna hoga. kisi ne aapse kuch tikhi baat kahi. uske reaction me aap ko gussa aaya. Agar aap reactive honge to aapka reaction bhi teekha jawab hi hoga. Lekin agar aapne apne andar ye samajh develop kar li hei, iski practice karke ki mujhe reaction nahi karna he, responce karna hei to hum kisi bhi teekhi baat ka jawab hum gusse se nahi de sakte. balki aisa jawab denge ki samne wale ka gussa bhi thanda ho jae
In sort, jab ham kisi dusre ke saath transaction initiate kar rahe ho to pahle hame sochna chahiye. Bade log kah kar gaye hein na pahle tol..fir bol!
Agar transaction (baat) kisi aur ne shuru ki hei to hame reaction nahi karna hei responce hi karna hei.
jo log in do baaton ka khayal nahi rakhte vo hi galat kar baithte hei.
Pls give me your views.
Rehan M Din said:
SD Brother... Un-educated people ko bhi pata hai k acha kia hai aur bura kya hai... but still there is no practical about it...
sun_shine said:
*Yaa Right Sir
*Definately hum bina sochay samjhay React kar detay hain.Hum "Eent ka jawab Pathar" wali baat pe Amal kartay hain .
I Agree with You Kay Wakai main pehlay Sochna chahiye then us baat ka answer dena chahiye.Hamain Responsive hona chahiye.
*Ek baat jo hamaray mind main hain aur Ap sab Ittefaak Bhi karaingay kay hamaray Asian Society main Log Apki Khamoshi Ko apki majbori samajhtay hain.
Agar koi hamain kuch ghalat kahay,Hum Unki baat ka Answer na dey ya Phir in Return of their Anger hum achay tareekay se unhain Treat karay tho Woh yeh samajh baithtay hain kay Shayad samnay walay person ne isliye answer nahi diya coz hum ne unhain la-jawab kar diya
woh yeh baat Bhool jatay hain kay samnay wala person Sirf unhain ek chance dey raha hain takay woh theek ho jaye...!
Smooth_daddy said:
Rehan M Din said:
SD Brother... Un-educated people ko bhi pata hai k acha kia hai aur bura kya hai... but still there is no practical about it...
True! but where did they learn that difference? someone must have taught 'em -- may be the mom & dad
Values that are inculcated and grained-in last life long. That's why some thinker said something on the lines that a person's first institution is the lap of his/her mom.
People are not learning at home or in institution those personality traits like, self control, patience, respect, and on and on and ....or perhaps, parents either don't care or that they don't have those traits to teach their kids.
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