ya tu experience hi bata sakta hai... n inshallah i will manage both my home n my career... coz i see many women working n they have really nice, well mannered children, and very nice and arranged homes too.... i mean ghar ka bhi sab kaam karteen hain bachay bhi achay hain n career bhi fit hai...

inshallah i will be one of them too... Inshallah

sorry i culdnt answer ur question....

its o.k,best wishes in advance for your life after marriage

oh thanku ji

nikama:

they all r such a devils

Aik baat yaad rakhain children ko kabhee bhee devli na kahen. aap unko naughty to keh sakte hain but they are not Devil.

They are the most innocent human of the world as they dont know anything so its our duty to teach them with love and sometime with anger.

But plz dont call Children devil.

Or jahan tak baat hay un koo qaboo karne kee agar piyar se samjhain to maan jain gay aaj kal main ne dekha hay kay agar koee bacha sharart karta hay us ke parents foran usko marne ya dantne lagte hain this is not good. unko piyar se samjhain maan jate hain. likin sirif ghalat baat par danten likin marne se phir bhee bachna chahiye.

Nowadays all the children are naughty. Jab wo bare hoongay to khud hee sanbhal sahee ho jain gay. Insha Allah.

Thanks

MY MOTHER IS A DR N WOH MANAGE KER LETI HAIN AAP APNI SISTERS SE KAHEIN BACHOON KO AIK AD JAD DE NAHIN YE NA KAHNA BACHE MUJHE BADDUA DEY GAY

sis to mujhe kehti hain k inhain bigarne main mera hath he.but my question was and is just how do working mothers manage their families and careers at the samer time.aikalone is another badal

this is wot i always say
pak mei majority aurtein kaam nahi karti,,, aur paki bache Allah maaf kare saabbbbbbbb se badtameez bache hein
(sorry to hurt ya ppl,, par yeh sach hai)


imma working woman too,, khair abhi to my meenu is quite young,, par abhi se i ve planned k usse kaise insaan banana hai,,, i wont say much coz aap phir kaho ge k kehna asaan hota hai
waise bhi iss topic pe baat kar k bohot kosne sunn chuki hu me,, so i shut up

but nobody tells how.i mean living in a joint family phir bhi asan hota he,coz your in laws could take care of your child when u r not home.but those who live in single unit family,un k liay to bohat problem ho gi.and how can a woman perform well in her office ager us ka say 2 years old is home,at the mercy of some nanny etc.

chalo jiii,,,
bata dete hein,, par paise lagein ge





bache ko sab se zyada bigarta hai yeh joint family system
kyun k dada/dadi/ nana/nani chacha/mamoo khala........ +parents sab apne apne laad poore karte hein,, iss liye agar apne bachon ko bigarne se bachana hai to bachon ki family ki pohonch se door rakhein


2nd thing,,,
i personaly wd never leave my kids to a babysitter or nany,, abhi filhal mom is free so she can take care of meenu par baad mei no way,, once bacha school jana start ho jae tab koi pb nahi,,
par iss ka matlab yeh nahi k im against working women,, not at all,, job karna kissi ki majboori bhi ho sakti hai,, yeh bhi ho sakta hai k agar woh beech mei 4/5 yrs ka gap de to baad mei usse job bhi na mile,, 4/5 saal k peeche poori zindagi ka rona

i know i knowww,, ab sab kahein ge k """ma ka kaam bachon ki parwarish,, bla bla blaaa la la laaa"""
to hell yarr,, jo ma'ain bachon ki 24/7 dekh bhaal karti hein unn k bache bhi utne hi badtameez, complexed, aur bongay hote hein... to kya fark parta hai



and now a ""do laakh ki baat""
never ever treat ur kids like KIDS,,
bache ko samjho,, aur usse samjhao, unn k sab sawalon ka jawab dena waste of time nahi hai
dont forget that u used to ask same question aur jawab na milne pe kitna gussa aata tha
bachon se pyaar karo par apne LAAD poore mat karo
punish ur children but never beat them
give them a sense of responsibility

kafi hai na bassss,, chalo shabash nikamma ab apne bachon ko aise hi palna

Sall u r 100% right.

Children needs time and I think kay bachy us waqt badtameez hotey hain kay jab unkoo apne parents kee tawajja nahee miltee hay.

Nikama:

I think kay aap ki sisters ko daily bachoon kay sath aik time fix karlena chahiye kam az kam 1 hour or un se unkee batain share karnee chaiyen. mera khayal hay kay aap ki sisters unko itna time nahee detain hain. likin ye karna zaroori hay.

And aikalone is not like Badal. Aikalone is Aikalone.

jahan tak mujhe pata hae to jo jo ladies job karti hain......woh jab ghar wapas ajati hae to kaam our office k waja se takhi hooi hae ....
our dosra job karne k bad ghar main bhi unka so kaam hote hae .....our is time main bache bhi jo k kuch hours aapne maan se door hae... unko dekhte hi chahte hae k kuch der maan sey baat kare ...sare din k sawalat jo zehan main hae aapne maan se share kare ....our khas unko maan ki muhabbat unko zarorat hae k maan kuch der unko peyar kare
our bechari maan, unko paas time hi nahin hae ye sab karne ki...our is waqt hae k bache k har sawal k jawab ya na hote hae ya unko dant parte hae ya etc etc
our ye sab reason   hae bache k bigarna....
our ek baat our
joint family system main ya bache ko ek zayada laad peyar karne k waja se ya k unko dantne k waja se woh bigrta hae!

sall and aikalone r right although i dont agree with sall's do lakh ki baat.my all nephews..7 in all r so attached to me and the only neice is really a darling,and we r friends.i share many things with them try to answer their all questions,so do my sis.dont think i'm bragging but we all r parhe likhe samajhdar log,who treat their children like human beings not like objects.but as a result they have become so independent and confident they also treat every one on equal terms and many find it rude.as for working moms sall's point of view is correct

bachon ko unn ki importance ka ehsas dilana bohot acha hai,, par iss k saath unhein doosre logon ki ehmiyat bhi batani chaiye

"rich or/and educated families" k bache over-confident aur arrogant hote hein (sometimes more than their parents)
they r well concience abt their status... they never forget to tell ya k woh konse school mei parhte hein aur yeh k unn k abba jaan ka kya business hai,, and their school friends konsi family se taluk rakhte hein
beleive me it sounds so funny when a 12/13 yrs old aisi batein kare

apne ghar k nokron se jiss tareeke se kaam karwate hein,,, dekh k dil ajeeb sa ho jata hai




khair matlab sirf itna hai k,, jahan bacha koi galti karta hai wahan hamari apni koi galti hoti hai,, bache aaine ki tarha hote hein,, and sometims woh aap ko aap ka woh pehlu dikhate hein jiss pe aap ne khud kabhi gaur nahi kiya hota

i can give ya example of my own family
par baad mei

Baat sirf maa baap ki nahin hoti, schools aur enviroment ka bhi haath hota he, aur khud parr bhi hoti he ke apni tarbeeyat kaisi he, (everyone is induvidual so that also influences) (khair explain later)

yes balance to banaya ja sakta hey
ager donon parents bachey sambhalein

now thats a gud point bad1.ager hum log bachon ki tarbiat sirf maan ki responsibility na samjhain to problem kafi had tak solve ho sakti he

very good Nikma........

Good topic but kehny ko bauth khuch hai but sorry i cant say a single word coz mai na khuch kaha tu


sorry Nikma

bus u r sweet na tumhari sis k kids bhi tumhary thran sweet hoon gayy n parents specially mom khabi bhi apny kids say satisfy nahi hui
aur haan ek baat buss "meray rulz apnay kids k liya aur n tumhary kids k liya aur gooon gay"

so its better k apny rulz apply kiya jayian apna kids pay




sorrrrrrrrrrrrrryyyyy




holla