LiL_DollY:
hmm I know in my fmaily
if someone passes away
my fmaily keeps the eid clothing simple
no one really dresses up
Yes, families and tribes have their on traditions. Some of them are good just as some of them are not good either.
I am glad you brought this up. I have been trying to make this point. Eid is a fard (offering eid prayers in some sects is sunnah, yet others consider it wajid) - celebrating Eid is required, i.e. one must be happy for two reasons.
1. because it is for His obedience and we are happy in what pleases Him.
2. it is given by Allah as he sends his angels and special blessings on this day because we have attained the taqwa and possibly freedom from the hell fire.
Losing someone in the family is very sadening, but joyful is the blessing of Allah to the believers who seek His plesure at all times. Thus, not celebrating eid could tantamount to rejecting what Allah orders. Naturally, it would be hard for a person to wear new clothes and being playful when someone in the family died only a couple of days ago.
However, when people show their sadness on the day of eid when during that year someone in the family passed away. Though in their normal life you don't see that unhappiness but they specifically mark eid to lodge their protest. This is not prmissble.