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How Heavy Is Your Bag

One of my teachers had each one of us bring a clear plastic bag and a sack of potatoes. For every person we’d refuse to forgive in our life, we were told to choose a potato, write on it the name and date, and put it in the plastic bag. Some of our bags, as you can imagine, were quite heavy.

We were then told to carry this bag with us everywhere for one week, putting it beside our bed at night, on the car seat when driving, next to our desk at work.

The hassle of lugging this around with us made it clear what a weight we were carrying spiritually, and how we had to pay attention to it all the time to not forget, and keep leaving it in embarrassing places.

Naturally, the condition of the potatoes deteriorated to a nasty slime. This was a great metaphor for the price we pay for keeping our pain and heavy negativity!
Too often we think of forgiveness as a gift to the other person, and while that’s true, it clearly is also a gift for ourselves!

So the next time you decide you can’t forgive someone, ask yourself… Isn’t MY bag heavy enough?

And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that God may forgive you your sins.


Posted on 9/16/2007 4:28:49 PM

i have no problem forgiving people i normally do

Posted on 9/16/2007 4:55:45 PM

hmmm......
i dont know if i often forgive,, but yes i normaly forget



just vvv few times..
cant forgive or forget.. i think there s just 1 case in my whole life,, lets say 1.5

Posted on 9/16/2007 6:57:49 PM

^and maira mamla Ashi say ulat hay
main MAAF kar daiti hon but BHOLTI nahin
haan yah bat aur hay kay phir mairi koshish hoti hay kay main UN logon kay baray main na sochon.

and aik aur bat jo mainay kuch time hoa karni start ki hay wo yah hay kay,
main maaf to bohat jald kar daiti hon and sab ko hi, BUT phir main un logon ko daikhti hon kay kia wo log bi pachta rahay hain?
kiya un main koi farq aya hay? ya wo ab bi wohi batain/kam kartay hain jis ki wajah say hamaray darmiyan fasla aya tha?
and kia wo dil say razi hoay hain ya sirf MANAFQAK kar rahay hain?

agar answers -ive aen to main un logon say milna kam ya na honay kay barabar kar daiti hon(but dil say maaf zaror karti hon)

and aisa is liyay karti hon coz, agar NARAZGI ki wajah USI jagah Qayam hay to HAM log again NARAZ ho saktay hain, to its better kay FASLA rakha jaey.
Coz mujh say MANAFQAT nahin hoti.

Posted on 9/18/2007 10:25:18 PM

thats really good baazi and ashii ..

aur aasera i also try to avoid that person after forgiving laiken jab bhe wo milay tu main hamaisha achay he tareqay sy baat kerti hon..

i hate this thing abt me k main negative nahi soch sakti, kisi nay meray saath bura kia ho ga tu main yehi sochon ge uski koi majboori ho ge, aisay circumstances hon gay jo us nay kaha, for the time being ghussa rahay bhe laiken phir theek hojata hai..

Posted on 9/19/2007 12:12:02 PM

i forgive but cant forget

Posted on 9/19/2007 12:19:46 PM

koi nahi srk.. kabhe na kabhe ap ka dushman bhe mauf ker day ga..

waisay it happens k most of the time we forgive the person but we dont forget.. i think until u dont forget how can u forgive?

Posted on 9/24/2007 10:55:47 PM

i simply forgive but bohat mushkilon say bhol paati hon

Posted on 9/25/2007 12:13:26 AM

main itni achhi nahin
na hi jaldi maaf karti hun
aur bhoolnay ka lafz tou hai hi nahin meri dictionary main

Posted on 9/25/2007 11:32:06 PM

QV..

jo shaks logon ko mauf kerta hai, Allah Tallah us ko mauf kerta hai..

bhool jaya karein.. acha hota hai sehat k liay..

Posted on 9/26/2007 4:01:55 PM

sahaili dear
ye main bhi janti hun
but insan hun na
farishta nahin
kahnay kokah sakti hun but nahin kar sakti
its my nature
Allah mujhay maaf karay.
zuban say kah bhi dun but kaye baar dil zuban ka saath nahin deta
so dhoka denay say behter nahin k jo ander hai wohi bahir rakhun?
is say dusaron ko bura tou lagay ga
log mujhay ghalat bhi samjhain gay
but mujhay inner satisfaction tou milay gi na kay mera qoul aur fael aik hai.

Posted on 9/28/2007 12:47:43 AM

QUEEN VICTORIA:
sahaili dear
ye main bhi janti hun
but insan hun na
farishta nahin
kahnay kokah sakti hun but nahin kar sakti
its my nature
Allah mujhay maaf karay.
zuban say kah bhi dun but kaye baar dil zuban ka saath nahin deta
so dhoka denay say behter nahin k jo ander hai wohi bahir rakhun?
is say dusaron ko bura tou lagay ga
log mujhay ghalat bhi samjhain gay
but mujhay inner satisfaction tou milay gi na kay mera qoul aur fael aik hai.


thts really nice QV k app k ander hypocrisy nahi hai..
waisay jab mujhsay bhe koi kaam na ho raha ho tu main bhe yahi kehti hon .. k im not an angel .. ansan he hon..

par kosish tu ker k daikha karain.. kabhe kabhe mauf kernay say bhe sakon hasil hota hai .. insaan chahay tu apni nature badal sakta hai..

Posted on 9/28/2007 2:09:46 PM

haan,koshish kerni chahiay khud ko change kerne ki

Posted on 9/28/2007 3:29:43 PM

haan koshish ki ja sakti hai
thori bohat karti bhi hun
kuch log zindagimain aisay bhi hotay hain jin ki ghaltiyun o maaf karna hi parta hai

Posted on 9/28/2007 11:11:05 PM

It really depends on what the other person has done, i usually forgive if its nothing worth losing your hair. But if it is something betraying then I will NEVER forgive.

Posted on 9/29/2007 5:01:15 AM

na mauf kerna ka aik nuqsan ye hota hai jo main topic k start mein bata chuki hon ..

apni he tabiat mein ranj rehta hai..

behtar hai k us banday ko mauf ker dia jaiy aur ainda us say ihtiyat ki jaiy..

Posted on 10/4/2007 4:16:09 PM