ek baat mery dekhny mai ayii hai mayb am wrong....woh ya k jo gals n guys live in pak un mai zaida tar ki wish hoti hai humari shadi kisi abroad nationality holder larka n larki say hooo n jo gals n guys live abraod un ki wish hoti hai k yaar shadi karna hai tou pak yahan k larky theek nahi hain /larkiyan theek nahi hain .mai yahan jitni bhi families ko janta hooon woh sub apny son/daughter ki shadi pak karna chaty hain n un k kids ki wish bhi ya he hoti hai .....k pak mai he shadi hooo .....aur in pak bhi looog abroad rehnay waloon ko zaida prefrence daytay hain ....
aub yahan prob ataa hai mostly paki larky jin ki shadi abraod gals say hui hoo un k mai nay bauth bura haal dekha hai ..first of all jo larkiyan abroad rethi hain un ki grooming pak mai rehnay wali larkiyon say different hoti hai (i dint say k woh theek nahi hoti") n pakistani larky somtime in cheezon ko adjust nahi kar patay ..fir ya tou woh ghar damad bun jaty hain ya sub khuch chorh k kaheen aur nikal jaty hain bauth kum asaiya dekhy hain jo kush rah rahiyah hooon
aur jin paki larkiyon ki shadi abroad hui hooo woh larkiyan phir bhi adjust ho jati hain mean 50/50?
wot do ya think abt this ? asaa hota hai ya nahi ?ager hota hai tou is k koi hul
aisa hota hai. and problem start due to cultural difference of limits and not following religious limits.
solution always lies in talking and sorting out the issue which causes problem. agar problem a rahi hai to is ka matlab yeh nahi keh aisay rishtay karna hi chor dain. many people have happy lives too.
main jitnay bhee logon ko janti hon so far, hardly 1 ya 2 hein wo bahir shadi kerna chahtay hein..
i asked my frnds wo ssab yaheen par settle hona chahti hein coz aik tu pehlay he maan baap ka ghar chorna perta hai larkiyooon ko phir itni duur chalay jana.. kaafi muskil hota hai..
kahir aik larki ki shadi yaheen ho ya abroad usay adjust honay mein time tu lagta he hai aur jo larkay ye expect kertay hein k wo 2 din mein unki tarhaan ho jaiy wo ghalat sochtay hein aur yehi misunderstanding ka first step hai..
dono ko aik dosray ko thori space daini chahyee aur zaroori nahi hota k her bari larki he adjust karay ya compromise karay kaafi dafa larkon ko bhe chahyee k bhe thori compatibility show karain..
aisa hota he aur aik common observation yeh bhi he k ager lerki pak main se aai he aur lerka abroad main rehta he to vo adjust ker lete hain lekin as u said ager lerka paki ho to us k liay apni forign nationality holder wife se guzara kerna mushkil ho jata he.
lekin kuch saal wait ker lo halaat jis taraf ja rahe hain lagata yeh he k 10,12 saal baad hamare aur west k culture main koi difference rahe ga hi nahin,tab tak wait kero
this is not the point to be laugh at.. this is the point where we shud seriously start to think... thats quite true that our culture is changing like anything.. thnx to enlightened moderation..
we have become so broadminded (as the ones who still follows our old culture are called narrow-minded and backward) that we are not realising that where we are going.. following in the foot steps of western will lead us to our doom..
khair this is not the topic here ..
yea nikama is right, if we keep on following the westerns with the same pace soon there wont be any cultural differences..
Hmm, thats a true Gee Z, but another thing which is also true:
where i come from many parents want their kids to marry from pakistan in order to bring over their nephew/niece. now this isn't always the story with the kids. Many girls here wear the hijaab, even the joobah, some also wear the nikaab. now theres nothing wrong with the way they dress, they are not "westernised" but their parents still marry them bak home. now (especially girls) when a girl marries, her partner comes over it was after one year before but not sure about now after which the partner gets his indefinite leave to remain.
So he gets his indefinite, and then he divorces his wife and in turn brings his lady love from pakistan. In most cases his first wife also has a child, i've seen this in so many cases where the partner from pkistan only marries to get abroad. then families fall out because the the family in pakistan will not recieve anymore marriage proposals to the sisters of the girl whos life is now ruined. get my drift.
If it's the other way round the girl wraps her hubby around her little finger and separates him from his family. This isn't always the case because there are many couples that are living life care free.
so it's always different, culture clashes and marriages don't work out, so better to marry in the country you live. That way you understand each other better.
Most pakistani families dont care to evaluate whether their children are gonna be happy with their husband/wife, they only care to look at the financial status. Guys marry girls coz she has, say a green card. and the girls marry coz well for a secure future. When getting along is far more important than their financial status.
I agree wid all this , Yes Gee-Z we have seen many examples. ppl living abroad wish that there kids will get the money from abroad and moral values from pak.and what goes wrong it is in front of us
