let's suppose u r getting married...or u already r..or whatever...
now tell me this...what do u expect from u;r husband? i mean...other then show love and care for u...what else? i dunno how paki kuris think...so help me out here...
money? time? gifts? compliments? respect u;r family? make sure u'r respected in his family? blah blah... what?
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Chandramuki said:
I expect my husband not to try and restrict any of my activities or take away even and inch of my independance.
now dat's a problem cuz suppose i for example...have gal friends..i hang out with them..this and that...now when my wife comes..offcourse she will have objection and she will want to restrict my activities like that...which i think is her right...so don;t u think it;s u;r husband's right too to restrict u in anyway if he feels is not right? cuz remember when u r getting married, u r losing u;r independance anyways...u and his have to change anyways....so i don;t agree with when u say restrict any of my activities or take away even and inch of my independance...just my opinion...cuz if u wanna stay independant, why marry u r getting married so u both can depend on each other
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oh bloody that damn add made erazed my entry. basically mutual respect is important, and i personally am not insecure or possive or afraid of one his girl mates becoming my home wreker, i'm strong enough and sure enough of myself to know he won't creep.
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oh bloody that damn add made erazed my entry. basically mutual respect is important, and i personally am not insecure or possive or afraid of one his girl mates becoming my home wreker, i'm strong enough and sure enough of myself to know he won't creep.
but not all gals and guys r like that...plus how do u know wot kind of relationship he is into with this other gal?
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Obviously the couple have to make adjustments, but that doesn;t mean they can't do the things they enjoyed as single people, they just need to reagrange their routines around it a little.
i wouldn't neglect my responsibities as a wife and go out to see my friends and that's the only valid objection a husband can have in my eyes from stopping his wife from having her own will. At the end of the day I was a person first and wife after.
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Chandramuki said:
Obviously the couple have to make adjustments, but that doesn;t mean they can't do the things they enjoyed as single people, they just need to reagrange their routines around it a little.
i wouldn't neglect my responsibities as a wife and go out to see my friends and that's the only valid objection a husband can have in my eyes from stopping his wife from having her own will. At the end of the day I was a person first and wife after.
well, when u become wife or husband...u r not the same person as before..u have to change..otherwise why get married? secondly...u said obviously couples have to make adjustments...so how do u expect to make adjustments without losing some freedom in one way or another
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Shahenshah said:
mutual respect..well yeah...and then again...if u respect them, then u listen to them too rite...
mutual, so they listen to me and return the respect as well.
but wot if they r not the type of person who goes out and party hard with friends...etc etc...where as u r the kind who goes out with friend all the time and wish to do that even after marriage...how will that work...
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LiL_DollY said:
when you get married you get to spend time with your spouse
and then you give each other space to be alone or with your friends
or so both of you can work
cause if your with each othe all the time then you will get sick of each other
there should be understanding and trust.
offcourse u have to give eachother space, but unlimited freedom? i don;t think so...we all know why divorce rate is so high in west...everyone wants freedom...i am independant..well..when u r married, u r not independant..u have a responsibility
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Shahenshah said:
Chandramuki said:
Shahenshah said:
mutual respect..well yeah...and then again...if u respect them, then u listen to them too rite...
mutual, so they listen to me and return the respect as well.
but wot if they r not the type of person who goes out and party hard with friends...etc etc...where as u r the kind who goes out with friend all the time and wish to do that even after marriage...how will that work...
i don't know how it would work, prevention is the best cure so marry someone who shares similar interests as you - or introduce the person to your hobbies.
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it all changes after shadi i am talkin from experience...meri abhi shadi bhi nahi hoi and i can feel i;ve changed alot...i used to be rebel, i am calming down i used to do so many things which now i think i shoudn;t cuz my wife won;t like it..etc etc
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well true..i agree with shahnshah ...after marriage u have to think about everything as a couple not as an individual...though i aint married yet just engaged...and shahenshah is rote if u don wann alose ur independence then why marry....well..if thewrz understandin mutual respect.u can enjoy ur independence with ur spouse as well
