Violence with wife

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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
requisting resriction of my id. ur service is very helpful,may ALLAH BLESS U.
PLEASE GUIDE ME, I HAVE A TEMPER PROBLEM WHICH INVOLVES VIOLENCS ON MY WIFE MANYTIMES OVER 3 1/2YRS SHE IS VERY AFRAID OF ME,SHE IS NOW LIVING WITH HER PARENTS,I HAVE BEEN REFERD FOR COUNCELLING BY GP,SHE HAS APLIED FOR COUNCIL HOUSE TO LIVE ON HER OWN, SO SHE CAN LIVE ALONE,SHE WANTS TO GET AWAY FROM EVERYONE,SHE SAYS SHE DOES NOT WANT ANYONE TO TELL HER WHAT TO DO,HER PARENTS R NOT ON GOOD TERMS WITH ME,BECAUSE WE GOT MARRIED WITHOUT ANYONES PERMISSION,
WE HAVE BEEN LIVING WITH MY MOTHER,MY WIFE HAS NOT BEEN ALOUD TO GO TO HER PARENTS BECAUSE MY ELDER BROTHER HAS DIFFERCES WITH THEM,MY INLAWS HAVE BEEN REQUESTING FOR RESOLVATION WITH HIM,BUT NOT BEEN SUCCESFULL,
NOW I AM COCIDERING GOING TO MY INLAWS TO ASK FOR THEIR FORGIVENESS&HELP TO RECONSOLE MY WIFE BEFORE SHE MAKES HER MOVE WHICH THEY R NOT AWARE OF.PLEASE ADVISE ON ADVANTAGES & DISADVANTAGES ON MY WIFE IDEA & HOW TO RECONSOLE HER&GET MY TRUST BACK WITH MY WIFE.ALSO WHAT I SHOULD SAY TO MY INLAWS.THANK U.ALLAHAFIZ


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Violence with wife


In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Statement: ur service is very helpful,may ALLAH BLESS U

May Allah Subhanah reward you with the best of this world and the Hereafter for your kind comments of encouragement for our humble efforts in the propagation of the Truth. If our humble and modest efforts have helped even one brother or sister get closer to Allah and His Deen of Truth, then we would consider ourselves indeed fortunate to have been given this opportunity by the Lord Most Merciful to serve in His Cause. We hope, beg, and pray the Merciful Lord accepts our humble and weak efforts, forgives us our shortcomings, and saves you, us, and all the believers from the torment of the Hell Fire. Ameen.

My dear and beloved brother in Islam, it is indeed good that you recognize your shortcomings and are ready to seek forgiveness from your loved ones whom you may have wronged, and the forgiveness of Allah Subhanah. Allah Subhanah indeed loves such of His believing slaves.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136: Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54: When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."

My dear and beloved brother, indeed if you do have a ‘temper problem’ which resulted in violence with your wife; then you have indeed wronged her and yourself. All Praise is due to Allah Subhanah Alone, who has guided you aright and given you the willingness to redress your problem. You must immediately seek the forgiveness of the people you have wronged, and implore the Merciful Lord to have mercy on you and guide you to the Right Path.
In Islam, each family can be considered a small State, and Allah has appointed the man as the leader of the state, because of certain natural qualities and because they provide for the family from their means. But having been given the position of a leader in Islam does not mean that the man becomes an arrogant and oppressive dictator like the leaders of the world! In Islam, when one is made a leader, his duty is to fear Allah, and serve, protect and maintain harmony in his state, by being a just, benevolent, and a loving servant-leader.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rum verse 21: And of Allah’s Sign is that He has created for you wives from your own species, so that you may find peace with them, and (Allah has) created love and mercy between you. Surely in this there are many Signs for those who reflect.


Allah himself says that he has created the relationship of husband and wife, so that we may find peace and tranquility in this relationship. And Allah has put love and mercy between the spouses, in this sacred relationship of marriage. But this love, respect, harmony, peace and tranquility can only be experienced if both the husband and wife fear and obey Allah Subhanah, and give all the rights that are due to their spouses.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 19: O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should ye treat them with harshness that ye may take away part of the dower ye have given them except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good.

It is reported that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said in an authentic narration: ‘The whole world is a provision (from Allah), and the best of the provisions is a righteous wife.”

Thus, what is required for a peaceful and loving marriage and a good wholesome life, is first and foremost the fear of Allah Subhanah; that one day everyone will have to stand alone in the Court of Allah Subhanah to give a full accounting of all his deeds. Once this God-consciousness and piety is developed in the person, he will always try to obey Allah and thus do all his deeds in the best manner, giving each the rights that are due to them.

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3252 Narrated by Aisha ; Abdullah ibn Abbas
Allah`s Messenger (saws) said, "The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family."

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3264 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah`s Messenger (saws) said, "The believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition, and the best of you are those who are best to their wives."

Al-Muwatta Hadith 47.12
Yahya related to me from Malik from Ibn Shihab from Said ibn al-Musayyab from Abu Hurayra that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said, "A strong person is not the person who throws his adversaries to the ground. A strong person is the person who contains himself when he is angry."

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 4766 Narrated by Atiyyah as-Sa`di
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