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kids choice of partner?

coming from the recent parents and kids life topic. im starting a new one.

will u ppl being from a new generation give ur children boy and girl the choice to select their partners?

would u pick for them then ask them?

or...

would u leave it entirely to them?

and...

will it b different for girls and boys?

Posted on 10/6/2005 2:02:44 AM

leave it entirely on them.

Posted on 10/6/2005 2:07:22 AM

wut will u do

Posted on 10/6/2005 2:07:50 AM

bit of both...

1) let them voice their choice, if they have one.

2) if i find someone, introduce them to my kids...
   then the choice is entirely theirs. they dont have to accept.

girl or boy will b treted equally.

Posted on 10/6/2005 2:10:58 AM

nice
how do know the one u found is good.

Posted on 10/6/2005 2:14:07 AM

well. if i come acroos someone, financially secure, good job, and generally a good person, then ill introduce them. then if they have an understanding and feelings for each other, cool.

if not doesnt matter.

Posted on 10/6/2005 2:20:42 AM

oh and then have to have looks too.

Posted on 10/6/2005 2:21:07 AM

u c wat if the person they find isnt good for then and u know that. will u let ur kids do it?

Posted on 10/6/2005 2:22:07 AM

umm yes.

Posted on 10/6/2005 2:25:18 AM

cuz i cant predict the future.

Posted on 10/6/2005 2:25:51 AM

ill tell them
then its their life

Posted on 10/6/2005 2:26:29 AM

yesh

Posted on 10/6/2005 2:30:57 AM

true, but i will try my best, cos im am thier parent, what parent wants to c thier child suffer, even if its thieir decision. of course then if im giving them the liberty of making choices, then they wil have to have the liberty to lsten and think about my advice.

Posted on 10/6/2005 2:36:37 AM

i will never force them, or emotionally black mail them.
a tactic used by many paki parents.

Posted on 10/6/2005 2:37:34 AM

thank u brother.

Posted on 10/6/2005 2:38:54 AM

KYA BAAT HAY!abhi apni shadi ka pata nahin ...lagay bachon ki shadi karaanay.o,bhai wo tum se poochain gay to decision lo gay na.its 21st century.

Posted on 10/6/2005 10:16:55 PM

ya, that is why this is called a forum wher u disscuss issues. u listen to what ppl have to say so if someone has a better idea u can adopt it urself. making u more educated.

Posted on 10/6/2005 11:43:58 PM

abhi sey preparations ker lo baad mein time nai miley ga

Posted on 10/7/2005 12:53:33 AM

its jus knowledge

Posted on 10/7/2005 12:56:38 AM

hanji ae wi hey

Posted on 10/7/2005 1:04:32 AM

i will help them offcourse
wont impose anything

and boy or girl
both will be treated in same way,,, sirf shadi k liye nahi harrrrr aik baat mei

Posted on 10/7/2005 10:02:05 AM

absolutly agreed

Posted on 10/7/2005 4:09:52 PM

hope u succeed

Posted on 10/8/2005 12:56:47 AM

all the best to u too.

Posted on 10/8/2005 1:08:28 AM


I think no one should 'pick' it should be a compromise between both generations, having said, I trust my parent's judgement and they respect my decision so I would agree to an arranged marriage.

Posted on 10/8/2005 3:50:16 AM


It's very important to have an understanding between parents and children, so you know what your child wants and look for those things when selecting a potential groom/bride, and kids should trust their parents to make the right and best choice.

Posted on 10/8/2005 3:53:03 AM

yesh oye

Posted on 10/12/2005 12:23:10 AM