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how to forget?

there comes a time in life when a person (parents, siblings, frnds or spouse) very near and dear to u leaves u alone coz of any reason (majboori, family pressures, misunderstanings or even death), life doesn't stops there for u.. though at times it feels like we cannot go ahead..

u try ur best to forget that person but no matter how hard u try, something or the other reminds u of him..

how will u cope with this situation?

Posted on 9/18/2007 3:13:21 PM
how to forget?

pahlay maira aik question hay aap say kay , bholain kion?
yad karnay main kia burai hay?


and yah jo yaad a jati hay khud say,bina yad kiyay, to aisa shaks to pahlay hi aap ko bhola hoa hota hay,
tabhi to sirf kabhi kisi thing ya bat say wo yad ata hay,
bilkul usi tarha jis tarha aur bohat say wakeyat, chizain, "dushman" etc yad atay hain.


Posted on 9/18/2007 9:43:25 PM
nahi..

coz kuch yaadein ap ko disturb kerti hein.. isliay bholna zarori hota hai..
Posted on 9/18/2007 10:42:16 PM
insan ko kon si cheez disturb nahin karti?

Posted on 9/19/2007 1:16:20 AM
bhulanay sai koi bhola hai bhala?
Posted on 9/19/2007 10:01:00 AM
Aasera:
insan ko kon si cheez disturb nahin karti?



ye tu insan ka na-shukra pan hai agar is tarhan kaha jaiy..

mujhay kisi ki help kerni hai kisi ko bholanay mein.. so i need sum suggestion...
Posted on 9/19/2007 11:56:28 AM
agree to what aasera has said,we must learn to live with the memories,we should not try to erase them from our minds.apne pyaron ko bhula ker jeena bhi koi jeena he bhala
Posted on 9/19/2007 11:58:28 AM
May Be:
bhulanay sai koi bhola hai bhala?


.. i duno kabhe ksi ko bholnay ki koshish nahi ki..

agar kisi ki sudden death ho jaiy (Allah na karay) tu us k close relatives ko aik dam say shock lagta hai aur un k liay is shock say nikalna mushkil hota hai aur agar na nikala jaiy wo depression mein rehtay hein .. is kiay kabhe kabhe bholana boht zarori hota hai..
Posted on 9/19/2007 12:00:18 PM
shahrukh khan:
friend_16:
Aasera:
insan ko kon si cheez disturb nahin karti?



ye tu insan ka na-shukra pan hai agar is tarhan kaha jaiy..

mujhay kisi ki help kerni hai kisi ko bholanay mein.. so i need sum suggestion...


situation kya hai?


uper say bhe thora parh lein tu kuch idea ho jaiy ga..
Posted on 9/24/2007 12:32:04 PM
time is a big healer
bhulanay say koi nahin bhoolta
hamary ander mazi ka haal say comparison har waqt chalta hai
yadain achhi hon ya buri
hum un say kabhi alag nahin ho saktay
hona bhi chahain tab bhi
haan reconcile kar saktay hain
Posted on 9/25/2007 11:28:50 PM
nice one QV..

i often think k kuch logon k divorce ho jati hai ya partner ki death ho jati hai .. and some of them get married again..

unhein wo saab baatein yaad nahi ateen? kaisay wo sab kuch bhol ker nayee zindagi shoro kertay hein?

tanhayee say der ker?? aur larkiyaan family pressure say sayid shadi ker tu laiti hein per wo saab baatein wo saab yaadein... ???
Posted on 9/26/2007 3:54:23 PM
hota hai
woi baat repeat karun gi aisay cases main insan kay ander present ka past kay saath har lamha comparison chalt ahai agar tou past bur ahai tou har present moment khushi deta hai aur shukar ka moqa bhi
aur aagar present past say badter ho tou past ki yaad aziat deti hai har lamha.
Posted on 9/28/2007 12:41:06 AM
hmmm,
Posted on 9/28/2007 12:42:59 PM
is main say point nikala jaiy tu wo ye k agar hum apnay present ko he bharpoor tareeqay say guzarein aur khushi khushi tu hum apnay past ko bhool saktay hein ..
Posted on 9/28/2007 2:03:24 PM
in a way yes,ager hum apne aaj ko ziada se ziada behter bananay ki koshish karain to hamara aanay wala kal bhi behter ho jata he aur guzre huay kal ki yadain bhi itni takleef deh nahi rehti.
as u mentioned f-16,in your previous post tht divorced ppl remarry they obviously have bitter memories abt their earlier experience but if they try and make their new relationship as successful as they can,they will surly will have no problem looking back at their past with a smile.
i think solution to all our problems often lies in today,but we either lose it in the yesterday or seek it in tomorrow.
shaid isi liay kaha gaya he beshak insaan khasare main he.
there is a simliar hadees k if your today is not better than your yesterday,u r surly a loser
Posted on 9/28/2007 3:26:10 PM
QV i agree wid u.
wese b jis ko ap bhoolnay ki koshish kar rahy hoty hain indirectly ap usy yad kar k khud ko aziat e day rahy hoty hain

i use word aziat cz f16 ki posts say mje lag raha hai k jis kisi ki b wo help karna chah rahi hain wo shaks depresed hai yadon ki waja se.

n best solution is ap khud ko kisi b kaam may masroof kar lain automatically ap ka depresion khatam ho jaega.
do something creative.do social work.
Posted on 10/5/2007 2:03:43 AM
pehlay bhi answer diya ja chuka hae what i was gonna say...time...time can make u forget everything
Posted on 10/5/2007 9:57:18 PM
quite right wht everyone has said..

i knw baazi time is the best healer, it make u forget even the most painful experience of ur life...

but there comes a time when u r reminded of the incident and then to cope with the present situation id really painful, like i said if a person get divorced and then re-marries, the old memories of the 1st wedding may haunt him..

srk this is just an example na .. samjhota ho bhe jaiy laiken his new spouse may resemble to his ex-spouse in many ways which wud remind him of her and he'll get depressed.

u keep urself busy whole day, off with ur old memories but when u lay down on bed to sleep, the old memories comes into ur mind out of nowhere.

often u keep ur self busy to an extent that u get really tiresome and when u lay down on ur bed, u immediately go to sleep and then u get nightmares

kuch log apni porani baatein, porani yaadein itna dil per laga laitay hein k wo agay barhna he nhi chatay ..
Posted on 10/6/2007 1:22:04 PM
baaz yadain puranay kapron ki tarah hoti hain jo jab hamain tang ho jaen to hum unko nai pehntay. so try to forget
Posted on 10/7/2007 2:45:42 AM
friend_16:
like i said if a person get divorced and then re-marries, the old memories of the 1st wedding may haunt him..



it depends on the person how he copes with this kindda situation...and if old memories still hanunt him then he still have not forgotten and he needs more time...cuz again...time will heal...
Posted on 10/7/2007 3:37:26 AM
well i agree wid balich .. k hum bholein hee kiyun .... yaad rakhney mein kahan burayee hai

Qv is rite 2, time is the perfect healer, per sab log eik hee tym period mein sab nahi bhula patey ..kuch log months mein hee bhula detey hain kuch years mein aur kuch shaid decades laga detey hain

Bazi n Allah Rakhi(Sahiba Mohatarma) are also rite


per one q from F16 yeh topic ka u ko kaisey khiyal aya ... ??

Allah Taa'la sab k diloon ko itna mazboot kar dey k woh duniya mein mojood insaano ko bhulaney mein kamyab ho sakien aur jo log is duniya mein nahi rahey un k liye hum kuch naik kam kar sakein un kee magfarat kee dua kar sakein .. Allah subhana wa taa'la hum sab k haal per reham farmaye
Posted on 10/7/2007 4:40:04 PM
Aameen.

aur fragz mujh per abhi itni bazurgi taari nahi hui k mery sath sahiba mohtarma jesy alqabaat b lagana pary ap ko
Posted on 10/7/2007 7:00:45 PM
dekho ji jahan adab hota hai wahan yeh sab hota hai

hum tu insaan hain shaid farishtey b kisi ko itnee asani sey na bhula sakein jaisa k hum keh chortey hain k us ko bhol jayo
Posted on 10/7/2007 8:03:39 PM
itnay moadab honay ka shukria janab









but kis nay kaha k bhool jao.........bat to ye hai k yaad na karo zabardasti khud ko aziat deny kliay.


Posted on 10/8/2007 3:25:31 AM
life is too busy k purani yadoon ko bhi yad rakha jaye...
Posted on 10/8/2007 3:57:24 AM
there r some people in my life fragi who are behaving in such a way .. so i thought of having different opinions from different members .. may be the problem can be solved! ..

baazi life may seem too busy .. laiken kuch log kaheen per ruk jatay hein coz of some incidents .. aur unhein sath lay ker chalna zarori hota hai .. nd thats wht i m trying to do..

waisay now i believe that its all in ur own hands .. and time helps alot..
Posted on 10/8/2007 10:19:19 PM
chalo ji Allah himat dey
Posted on 10/8/2007 11:25:33 PM
Aameen
Posted on 10/9/2007 5:09:15 PM
but hosla kar lena mushkil kaam hai
Posted on 10/9/2007 11:07:22 PM
§Fragi§ g ye buhadron ka kam hota hai........
Posted on 10/10/2007 3:35:29 AM
aur fragi bahadur nai
Posted on 10/13/2007 3:20:39 AM
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