Married women

salam how are you ?
i am not understan what you wana say plz relpy me brifiy

should a women work after marriage or not?

lol
i think she shuld work?
wot is the harm in working?

agar islam k lehaz say daikha jaey to... agar bohat ZARORI nahin hay to nahin karna chahiyay kam.. but tab dono halat main nahin...yani Na shadi say pahlay Na shadi k bad.

but dusray lehaz say daikhain to... islam situations ko daikh kar asaniyan paida kar daita hay :)
yani jaisa aaj kal ka mahol and "zarortain" hain un k lehaz say JOB zarori ho gai hay.

Pakistan main bi... coz apnay liyay nahin to APNAY kidz k liyay takey unko acha mustakbl milay... wo ahsas-e-kamtri ka shikar na hon ( agar shoher ki job say guzara mushkil ho to ) to i think aurat agar tab shoher ka hath batanay ko job karey gi ( islam ki hadood main rah kar ) to i think k tab bi koi burai nahin ho gi job karnay main.

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and aaj kal aur bi bohat si wajohat hain jis ki wajah say agar aurat job karti ho to us ko ACHAY BURAY ki pahchan hoti hay... ghar main band rahna wo bi aj kal k zamanay main , khud say dushmani karna hay.
duniya bohat ajeeb ho gai hay ab.. jo banda baher nahin jaey ga... har kisam k logon ko face nahin karey ga wo kal ko
apnay KIDS ko sai say protect nahin kar paey ga coz usko kuch tajurba nahin hoga k baher kaisay halat hain...
to aisay main FAZOL baher ghomnay say... choti si job kar lainay main mujhe nahin lagta k koi burai hay.
but AGAR AAP KI NIYAT THEEK HO TAB.

i agree with vin lakin ager zarori hai to karni chaye lakinager srif time pas kay liay hai to nahin karni chaye or is bat ka khas khyial rakhna chaye ay apki family is say hurt na ho kyionkay ajkal esa daykha geyia hai kay after marriage bhe khuwateen srif apna carrer banay kay liay jobs karti hian jiske wajah say unki families or khas kar bachay hurt hotay hain to esi halit main nahin karni chaye ager koi majbori hai ya woh samghti hain kay woh jobs kay sath apna ghar bhi manage kar sakti hain to us main koi boraye nahin hai balkay main to kehta hon is sorat main unhay karni chaye takay woh apnay bachon ki behtar tarbeyiat kar sakayn kyionkay woh dunyia ko face kar chuki hongi or apnay bachon ko sahi tor pay guide kar sakayngi yeh decision soch samgh kay layna wala hai or koshish karni chaye kay rite decisin ho

depends upon nature of job , necessity .

And also a woman should know how to manage time. if she can manage time properly so that her responsibilities are not being ignored. she can do her job.

A lady doctor if stops doing practice after marriage, is doing bad. it means she has wasted time and money and she is ignoring a noble profession.
(Being a medical student, i gave this example)

balich and daktar said it all


sirf aik cheez add karu gi
time pass karne ko job karne mei bhi kya harj hai ??
I think women also need to change their mind, to go out side,, to do something creative
to prove theirselves

baki rahi ghar aur job manage karne ki baat,, to obviously yeh bohot important hai,, par bachon ki tarbiyat maa aur baap dono ka kaam hota hai...
agar aurat job karti hai to uss k husband ko uss ka poora poora saath dena chaiye, madad karni chaiye, usse encourage karna chaiye

aurat ka career banana aur independant hona mard jitna hi zaroori hai,,,, coz u never know aane wala wakt kaisa hai


daktar ne aik dammmm sahi kaha,,, parhne k baad job na karna time money aur doosre ka moka zaya karna hai

abhi agar lady doctors or lady lawyers have to do over timing to sirf iss liye coz inn ki tadad kam hai,,, jab zyada aurtein aise profession mei hongi to time manage karna aur bhi asaan ho jae ga

kisssi ko koi eitraz hai kya ya aur kuch kehna hai kya

mera tu yeh khyaal hai key...unko job karni chahiyey...i mean shadi ke baad agar job na karien tu faida kya jo unhon ne itni mehnat ki study par ki hai

i think situation pe depend kerta hai ager uska husband itna support ker raha hai jo enough hai to usko gher achi tarah sambhalna chahiye kaam nahin kerna chahiye leekin ager uske husband ko financial halat main uski help chahiye to usko madat kerni chahiye

Ashii said:

sirf aik cheez add karu gi
time pass karne ko job karne mei bhi kya harj hai ??
I think women also need to change their mind, to go out side,, to do something creative
to prove theirselves

Ashii said:

aurat ka career banana aur independant hona mard jitna hi zaroori hai,,,, coz u never know aane wala wakt kaisa hai

aap ki nichay wali post hi upar wali post ka jawab hay
coz time pass na pass ki ab bat hi nahin rahti
coz aaj kal job ZAROORAT ban chuki hay 90% logon k liyay

+ coz aaj say koi 12 13 yearz pahlay hamari family main girlz ka job karna and ZIADA agay tak parhna
kuch zarori nahin samjha jata tha ( coz of MAHOL, LOG etc )
but ab to mahol aur bi kharab hay BUT job ki ijazat ki bi zarorat nahin parhti..and parhnay par ZABARDASTI ki jati hay K PARHO nahin to shadi kar dain gey

So girlz ka job karna shadi say pahlay ya bad
koi itna barha masla nahin hay ( agar isko jan bojh kar MASLA banaya na jaey to )

Ashii said:

sirf aik cheez add karu gi
time pass karne ko job karne mei bhi kya harj hai ??
I think women also need to change their mind, to go out side,, to do something creative
to prove theirselves

Well Ashii..
Time pass karne ko job karna....
kya WOMAN k paas itna time hota hey k wo sirf isay PASS karne ko JOB karay, Ghar se baher niklay.. I dont think so. or i might have not get ur point..
Baat Responsibilities ki karain to Ghar chalanay ki zimmedaari aadmi ki hey. aor Ghar sanbhalnay ki Aurat ki.
The best job for a woman is to
TAKE CARE OF HER HUSBAND AND CHILDREN
TO TRAIN HER CHILDREN..

Infact mujhe ye timepass karne wali baat ki samaj nahi aayi..

leken usne itni mehnat ki studies par...then no job?

shahrukh khan said:

what do you think...should they work after marriage or not?

NO

I think ki agar aadmi ki kamai enough hei ghar
chalhaane ke liye to aurat ko apne bachon ko paalne
mei aur family ki dekhbal ko opt karna chahiye.

But all depands on situations.

Western world ki dekha dekhi hum log is choice par
soch to rahen hain lekin agar hum unka aur apna social
structure study karen to mere khayal se hamari family
ko ek fultime caretaker ki zarurat hoti hei.

Larrkiyon ki parrai-likhai ka use kewal naukari mei
hi nahi hota balki ghar ki responsibilities mei bhi
hota hei. Aap ek kam parri-likhi khatun ka ghar visit
kariye, unke bachhon se miliye, aapko fark nazar aaega.
Han koi koi khatun exception ho sakti hei.

Aap bachhon se miliye, baten kariye to aapko ve bachhe
jyada samajhdar, confident aur khush milenge jinke parents unko khasaa time dete hain.

Agar zarurat hei to job karne mei koi burai nahin hei.

im not studying my butt off to stay home and cook
muje kayi larkiyon ka pata ha jo bohut kuch kerna chahti hain lekin ese courses kar rahi jis main sar khapana nahin parta kehti hain sir khapane ka kya faieda jab ghar sambhalna ha..

jab apni taleem kahin ja k lagani nahin ha to school hi na jao ghar beth jao..show off kerna zaruri to nahin

completly agree to rebel's last line



balich
hum ko shak sa hai k aap issi liye parh rahi hein
(u r right)



daktar
time pass karne se matlab 'tafreeh' nahi tha,, read the rest of the sentence
u said ky aurat k paas itna time hota hai ??
bilkul hota hai,, kam se kam me jitni bhi families ko janti hu unn mei se majority k ghar k kaam nokar karte hein,, bache adha time school hote hein,, school k baad madrisa then tution time
(im not talking abt any rich or "high class" lady)

mujhe nahi lagta k uss k baad aur kya kaam reh jata hai
it doesnt mean k ghar pe koi kaam nahi hota,, but for giving u an example hum 4 behen bhai hein... ghar ki safai hafte mei aik din ammi karti hein aik din baki mei se koi (yar hum tameez se palay hue bche hein ghar ganda hi nahi karte na,, iss liye twice a week is enuff hehehee..)
kapre dhulte hein machine mei,, khana sab aik time ghar pe khate hein,,
aur iss sab k bawajood my mom never did a job.. Allah ka shukar hai financialy bhi zaroorat nahi pari kabhi
but NOW in this age I can see how she feels alone and cut of the rest of the world,,
meri jo family Pak mei hai unn aurton ka bhi yehi haal hai,, they r unable to teach their children anything abt the outside world

khali zehn shetan ki amaajgah hota hai suna to hoga,, par iss ka living examples hamare han ki aurtein hein, jinhein doosre k bakhiye udherne k ilawa kuch aata hi nahi (khair iss ka matlab yeh bhi nahi k working women koi galt baat nahi karti hogi)
im just giving u a reason k faltu time aur khali zehn kis hadd tak khatarnak hote hein

agar bari family hai aur kaam bohot hai to na karein job,, par me unn ki baat kar rahi hu jo faltu time hote hue ability hote hue job nahi karti,,
well mera matlab sirf do paise kamane liye kaam karna nahi hai,, studies bhi ki ja sakti hein, kiss ngo k saath kaam kiya ja sakta hai, part time job ki ja sakti hai

bohot kuch hai karne ko.........
u just need to manage ur time properly
jo aurtein saaari sari umer ghar pe bethi hoti hein aur bachon ki dekh bhal karti hein unn k bache konsa koi teeer maar lete hein,,, so it doesnt change anything
jo job nahi karti kabhi kabhi woh bhi bachon ko buri tarha neglect karti hein

I already said K mujhe theek se samajh nahi aayi.. now i have got..

But c.. aap ne apni example di..
main agar apni baat karoon to mere zehn main waqai ye tasawwur nahi tha K A woman can do job just for time pass.. kion k main ne apni family , apnay surroundings main ye cheez nahi dekhi... jo bhi hey , lekin main ne ye dekha hey k agar khwateen k pass koi free time hota bhi hey to they have no idea of job, k time pass karne k liye job ki jaye..

Jo baat aap ne ki K Women in ur family are unable to teach anything about the outside world. Kehna mujhe bhi ye e chahiye aor shayad hum bhi ye e kehtay k jo khwateen ghar main rehti hain , unhain baher ka kuch pata nahi hota, aor shayad wo apnay bachhon ko utni achi tarah train bhi nahi kar saktien, lekin agar main ye sochna chahoon to aik personality bohat strongly mere samnay aati hey. (wese to i know many women lekin aik ka zikr isliye k wo meri naani ammi marhooma hain)

main ne un jesi door-andesh , samajhdaar, cheezon ko bohat gehrai main samajhne wali Khatoon shayad e koi dekhi ho. Wo pure house wife thien.

so i cant say k Ghar main rehne wali aurat bachhon ko acha train nahi kar sakti... ya ye k unhain baher ki baaton ka pata nahi hota.

Ashii said:

bohot kuch hai karne ko.........
u just need to manage ur time properly
jo aurtein saaari sari umer ghar pe bethi hoti hein aur bachon ki dekh bhal karti hein unn k bache konsa koi teeer maar lete hein,,, so it doesnt change anything
jo job nahi karti kabhi kabhi woh bhi bachon ko buri tarha neglect karti hein

pehle zamanay main jab khwateen k liye job ka trend nahi tha, wo ghar main hoti thein, devoting their lives for their husbands and kids, kya un k bachhon ne koi teer nahi maari hogi.. Kya wo sari generation bay-kaar ya nakaam hui..

meri family main majority women housewives hain. and they are as mature as a woman doing job. So aap ye to na kahain k jo auratian gharon main hoti hain, un k bachhay konsa teer maar lete hain..
Job karne wali un khwateen ki percentage definitly more than 50% nahi hey jo apni job aor ghar ko theek tarah manage kar sakain.. aor aksar they have to face problems.
I m talking about Yahan ki khwateen.. according to my observation.

Nice topic started. I guess it depends on the situation. If she gets spare time for her after being back from job then she should do it. But it is also not must that she should do job.

shahrukh khan said:

what do you think...should they work after marriage or not?

yes why not

beshak unko is ki zaroorat na ho

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