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nikama said:
kafi cultural differences hotay hain.people born in pakistan in no matter what social class have a typical mind set which is quite distinct from people who are of U.K. or U.S. origin so its difficult but not impossible
ur absolutely correct.... the brought up, environment, education, values, manners, morals...impact and shape personalities in a society. Western norms and values are different from that of Pak. That difference shows in personalities of two regions and sometimes they are not compatible. If you find a somewhat compatible partner, it should work.
People looking for a perfect match often get disappointed. In my humble opinion, while looking for a partner, one should only set some major non-negotiables and then prioritize by the importance of issues of compatibilites. Marriage is the name of flexibility; the more you can accomodate, the greater is the chance of successful married life.
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awesome job Tasha
The biggest lie of the history is "Jesus being the son of God (glorified is He)(I seek protection with Allah from this fabrication). Basis of this claim is theoratical and mythical which has never been proved scientifically, but it has impacted human history in enormous proportions.
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...and the other problem is: we think we turn people's heart and we giveup when we fail....remember, our job is to bring reminders to people persistently in a friendly way. it's not our prerogative striking fear of God in their heats. It's His job
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jason statham said:
kuch din mein taliban ka safaya hone wala hai...
...by force
...the harder we hit them, the more they recruit ... they were less than 10,000 in afghanistan before 9/11; how many are there and in Pakistan now? In eight years of war, they have only strengthened and regrouped stronger than before. Their area of operation has been ever expanding...
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great topic Zam
salam is the greeting of the pardise....Allah will present this same greeting to his slaves who would be granted paradise and entered into it....the ultimate peace and protection.
unfortunately, Muslims have a low self-esteem these days and they find pride in non-muslim practices. They think adopting non-muslim practices make them cool, modern and successful. They have lost pride in what Allah has gifted to them, they rather feel ashamed of it
There is not a greeting in the world better than the salam....
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CT, I don't know enough background on what's going on in your home. I don't even know if this is a real situation. Let's assume it is a real deal, I don't know why your parents want to get you married and out of the house...could you talk to anyone in your family and would anyone listen to your side of the story?
If you refuse to sign the nikah (marriage license) how could you be forced to marry someone? Yes it will cause some embarresment and bad feelings but then somebody should have thought about that too!
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RMD, I respectfully disagree.
Ability to differentiate between right and wrong could be an instinct build-in a person, but to know the difference or what is right and what is wrong is a learned skill.
A baby cries when its hungry, but it also cries when its wet or when its sick or hurting. Crying is an instinct, but it is not knowledge that a baby intelligently uses.
Reasons for not being able to put the knowledge to practise are two fold. a) its a matter of choice - someone knowingly ignores the right and chooses the wrong. or b) Knowlege is not committed to the soul -meaning it does not trigger in time to keep the person on right track and keep it away from wrong.
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Hijab and madrassa are great but they are not Islam in themselves. Hijab only works if it is taken by will and understanding and by internalizing iman. Forcing it or creating an environment that compells women to wear hijab without a will and understanding nurtures resentment leading to hate and contempt for sharia.
Madrassa are an institution of education and its scope to strict religous teachings has been limited only by narrow minds. School is an english word for madrassa, meaning a place of education. Like any instituion, job of a "madrassa" is to educate and groom youngsters of a society into productive and highly functional citizens. Who is responsible for limiting this scope of madrassas to a "seminary-like" function and then to a para-militant production units. where they are given a tunnel-vision of the world and the society which they care not to serve and make it a better place. They rather long to destroy it
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These people have forgotten the very basic element of establising Islamic sharia, i.e. inviting people to goodness before prohibiting evil. They have forgotten the job of educating and grooming young muslims -- help them become models of Islamic behavior which in turn inspires societies around them to emulate them....and then, we have among muslims who are afraid of loosing their life style if sharia will apply.... naturally, in a society, where there is a large population that lives in that fear, they will align with opponents of sharia. In such circumstances, I am sure those proponents of sharia could use and understand some wisdom -- violence turns people off! no matter how good is your system. No prophet forced a system upon its people unless they accepted it to be their way of life....
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exactly right ! shaista & sunshine
... I have said this before and will say it again, there is not a model of successful implementation of Sharia exists in modern times...examples of saudia, sudan, afghanistan...paint a negative image of Islam and portray it as repressive and backward societies....because all their sharia is applicable to crimes in a harsh way and preventing women from freedom.
Now, there are western societies capitalizing on those weaknesses but the muslims at the helm of applying sharia are equally responsible for hurting Islam.
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The issue is not with the sharia. The biggest woo is the way they implement it.....image of sharia law in the minds of the people is "lash-loving", "sword/gun happy" people get to do the justice at whim.....
....It is muslims who hate it more than anybody and the reason for it is how it is percieved....brutality, barbarism, harsh treatment, or however you name it are words that are synonymous to "sharia" or how it is imaged in the minds of the people....and there is none else than these people to blame who enforced sharia law in such a way that made it look so terrible.
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here, we don't eat any meat topped pizza cuz...you know why!
Last time I visited Pakistan, I was really impressed by the quality of pizzza they made there -
Apparently, toppings/seasonings are called by different names in different parts of the world...my favorite is pineapple and olives. I am not a mushroom lover.
