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friend_16 said:
Never had my own experience going out in chand raat.. par sunna bohat kuch hai .. Ye raat asal raat hote hai jaab banda apnay Allah say dua karay kay jo us nay saray month roozay rakhay wo qabool hoo jain .. apni gunnahoon ki maufi maangay .. jo ramzan main ghalat kaam hoo gaiy un ki maufi..ainda ki life main theek kaam kernay ki dua... par aisa hota nahi hai .. jaisay he chand nazar aya tu baas bazaroooon kay chakker start hoo jatay hein .. aisay rooza rakhnay ka kia faida jis main app nay kuch seekha he nahi ..???
virtous work gives satisfaction and fulfillment Joy of the feeling of rising above lowly life. chasing girls and spending prcious time in bazaars hardly offer any good feeling once its over.
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"...when some tries to pick a fight or annoys the one who is fasting, he should respond only by saying, 'I am fasting'". Walking away from a tense situation when you know you are right takes tremendous courage and self control. This makes you love Islam that it offers solutions to all human problems. Prophet (pbuh) advised believers that when you feel anger, find yourself a seat if you are standing, perform wudu if you still can't control it. taking deep breath and letting it out slowly also relieves one from anger and tension.
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SALL said:
when u guyz talk abt GALS,, think once abt ur sister and mother
my bibi jii did aitekaf in 2002,, and she passed away in last ramadan,, she was really lucky
hey SD,, can we do aitekaf for 2/3 days ?? i thought it was during last 'ashra' (10 days)
Sure can!! etekf can be of any duration. Etekaf in lst 10 days in ramadhan is very special. Prophet used to do that and his companions after him. Ocourse, longer you stay in etekaf, greater wld be the ajr. Women sure can perform etekaf for a duration of their choice. Conditions for etekaf limply to purify oneself, leave matters of dunya out and remember Allah a lot. Important thing is intention to truly seek forgiveness and repent for sins and to stay away from them. Humbling oneself is another condition bcus shaitan tries to incite boastfulness in us when we return from etekaf.
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Sall, Allah knows whose prayers are acceptable. your question is a very valid one. Once someone asked prophet (pbuh) about a woman who was very particular about prayers and nawafil prayers and fastings etc. but she was a foul mouth, Prophet said she belonged to hell. Then the person inquired about another lady who was barely doing the required prayers and rituals but she was kind to others and hurt none. prophet (pbuh) said she was belonged to paradise. Morale is prayers are a condition for piety but without good moral it offers very little. And only being kind wldn't let one in the paradise without prayers.
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Happiness of a believer is in the pleasure of Allah. allah's plesure is in His obedience. Enjoying and being happy on the day of Eid is required because it is not up to us to have Eid or not. Allah gave this present of Eid to believers. Not celebrating Eid falls in disobedience to Almighty even when someone is saddned by loss or grieved by illness or sort.
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Believe it or not, you can celebrate Eid night singing and dancing with friends (of course boys separate from girls, calling on friends and congratulating them, invite or visit friends and family and those less fortunate. Decorating and cleaning houses in preparation for celebration, helping siblings and parents getting prepared for Eid. Giving presents to loved ones is a very virtous custom. Above all, think of taqwa you gained from Ramadhan. Think of the blessed days that are now behid us. I feel sad at the end of Ramadhan bcuz i am not sure if i will live to see it again. I always feel I didn't do enough for this guest of Allah. Verse where Quran orders to fast in the month of Ramadhan also requires us to mention greatness of Allah after completing the count so we may become thankful. So oft-mention Allah o Akbar...wa lillahil hamd. Enjoy the worship of Allah and don't just do it to shed a burden. Offer Eid prayers with humbuleness and not with arrogance of newer and most trendy clothes.
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faradiya said:
thanks you for your valueable comments mr smooth.
if we say the word "natural thinking" what do you think how a natural person should response if his sister love with someone .
Question is complex bcuz it all depends on values in the family and how much individuals uphold it. if it is a norm for boys to fall in love (lust at)girls at first sight, their sister following suit should be a norm as well. In a household where piety is a norm and boys don't hound girls, sister's falling in love shall not be deemed and judged as wrong or immoral without knowing the matter. Even when it is found to be wrong by principles, one must respect feelings and take a course of wisdom. This by no means an invitation for girls to fall out of the wagon.
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JANUBABY said:
can any one tell me ki yeh jo love kartay hain log pagal ho jatay hain apni life ka bhi khayal nahi hota unko 1 insan kai liye kuch bhi kar deh gay islam main is bare main kia bola jata hai yeh jaye hai ya nahi aur waise EX ki girl aur boy ki friendship nahi ho sakti per yahan per is baat ko koi dehan main nahi rekhta mujko app love ka bataye ki jo love kartay hai lover banay baithay hotay hai yeh islamic point se mujko kuch bataye agher islam mai hai is bare main to plzzzzzzz aur koi mazak nahi BE SERIOUS PLZ becoz i m very very serious
I'm no scholar but I know a little. Love to the point of insanity -- a state of heart and mind beyond ones control (obsessive compulsive)-- people in such a situation are not held responsible for their feelings but they are responsible for their actions. Obsessive behavior is satanic in nature. Love is a natural feeling/emotion, then there is reason/intelligence. A balance btw them is from Islam. Love to beoceme rich is normal and Obsessive love for it fares against its teaching bcuz it's abnormal.
Love for spouses, parents, children, siblings etc. are natural and demanded by Islam. While love for same becomes haram when it prevents one from worshiping Allah (includes not only prayers, but also other acts of goodness and staying away from harm).
BF/GF relations are products of ignorant societies and cultures and alien to the principles of Islam. Islam demands from followers to lower their gaze upon seeing person of opposite gender let alone friendship btw 'em.
I didn't understand the last part of you question.
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SALL said:
only fajr ki namaz parhi,, but im sooo tired k legs kaanp rahi hein meri hmmm par abhi type bhi to kar rahi hu na AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa..
How do you then fast! You know that other acts of good will not even be looked at if the person neglects prayers. Just like prayers are unacceptable without the shahadah.
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A young guy once approached the Prophet (pbuh) and sought his permission to commit 4nication. Prophet (pbuh) asked the guy how he would feel if he would like someone to do the same with his sister, he responded, Never', then he asked him if he would like someone to do the same with his mother, he responded, Never. Then Prophet (pbuh) told him that the person he wanted to have illicit relations with must be somebody's sis or mom. He then placed his blessed hand on the guy's chest and prayed for him which receeded his desires.
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I know. I feel bad especially bcuz I prayed to Allah for this one alot. And when I get upset with him I feel bad thinking I am being unthankful to Him for this precious gift.
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faradiya said:
oyeee bund karoo ye sacchi sacchi bateen
Question to all Boys.... Hum kisi larki sei pyar kartay hain tu kesay khush hotay hain ......duniyaa rangeen lugnay lugti hai.........dil chahta hai logoon ki madad kareen ....insanoo kay kaam ayeen....ore agar woe larkii hum sei bahir milnay aa jayee tu uss ki bahadarii kay kisay sunatay sunatay zubaan nahi thukti.......
paar agar yehi sub kuch hamari apni behan karay tu ham ko kya ho jata hai ??? duniyaa hamari aankoon kay samnay aandheer kue ho jati hai....kue jee chahta hai kay haar insaan ko hatam kaar dein.........kue ??????
bcuz we are selfish and look to serve our interest only. We look at other girls bcuz we see them as objects of pleasure while oblivious of the fact our own sis/dauts are same to others.
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Great topic! thnks Faradiya
I got upset with my little boy just before Iftar yesterday and scolded him but hugged him a moment later as I realized it was wrong. I felt so bad that after fasting whole day, I felt anger when a child was acting normal. I seek refuge with Allah from weakness and anger.
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It seems like people hold back their desire to sin for a month. 1st opportunity they get to let it out, they do it with a bang. funny thing -- people say they are going to do such 'n such bad things after breaking fast even in Ramadhan.
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Blessed night of eid when angels descend with glad tidings for those who observed fasting. Boys chasing grls on tht night a tradition in Pak based on ignorance like many other rituals. What an awful way to celebrate whole month of fasting! Pity! we may need to think over we gained after a month long training!
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etekaf's another gift of ramadhan Best etekaf's when performed regularly. People who enter Masjid with the intention of etekaf regularly will hold a higher place in Jannah than those who only do ekekaf in ramadhan. Thou ekekaf in Ramadhan wipes out sins of past and helps one achieve taqwa, one may do etekaf for even one night and every night in ramadhan. Whoever does it please remember me in your dua. I intend to do ekekaf but only for a day or two.
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SALL said:
"""forms of worship, which is meant to cleanse inner filth""" does it mean,, if someone prays 5 times a day,, his inner filth is washed out and he/she wont do or think anything bad
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Every worship in Islam is with a purpose. But all worships require physical cleanliness. Quran: "Verily, Allah loves those who repent and those who purify themselves". No worship, no matter how big or small, qualifies for acceptability if it is not performed with pure intention of pleasing Allah. Praying is one of the fundamental forms of worship, which is meant to cleanse inner filth. Hadith: "... one who offers prayers five times a day, his/her sins are washed out, just like one who rinses all the filth when bathes in a river five times a day." Quran: "Prayer are shield for one against indecency and sin".
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Ironic, I came to this topic bcuz we 'ere talking about prayers and now we are talking about anger and vengence.
Test of Eman is anger. What angers us? personal hurts! we think of ourself too much and when something come in the way, we get upset. Fasting means curbing anger: "...when someone tries to pick a fight, or say or do annoying things, say: 'I am fasting'". Say it to who? to oneself before anyone else! Frady, did you pray (after breaking your fast) while you were angry and thinking about SK? This is what satan wants. you (don't mean Frady only)become Ilah of yourself, you worship yourself, put your desires and passions above Devine orders. Fasting brings you back to senses - detach you from even yourself and relate you to God Almighty. If we can't leash our anger, we only earned hunger and thirst from it and lost the taqwa and ajar.
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Don't look at 'em guyz! neither your fast will break nor 'ld they feel any need to put it on when no one cares to look at 'em.
Though LS is not an edible item, it still breaks the fast because it is neither a natural enamel of ones body nor it is something unavoidable. Allah knows best.
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Decade ago we were muslims of friday, now we become muslims of ramadhan. Believe it or not, avatars and pics cause no disrespect for Ramadhan. Infact, nothing can cause any disrespect to any month except to onself. Why have we accepted this notion of "at least in respect...". Islam is a complete package. One who takes part of it differs not from the one who doesn't. Respect for Ramadhan is important to us but we care little about disrespect to the teachings of Quran which ironically taught us about ramadhan!
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you are absolutely correct Sall, it is the inner strength of normal humans when raised to tht level, makes them super-natural. These strengths can only be drawn from belief. Unfortunately, most people say they believe, but they only say it but in the hearts they do not, because they have the fear of others in it, dissatisfaction with what Allah provides them, they enjoy sinning and despise worshipping and remembering Allah, they love what non-muslims do and dislike what Islam offers. This is because they only see material success of non-believers, and too only in recent times but forget the glory of their own past.
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Talking of satisfaction, there was a group who were pleased and satisfied in the most comprehensive sense. They were satisfied with what Allah decreed for them and Allah was pleased them. They unterstood the words in Quran, "Indeed the peace of heart and mind is in the rememberence of Allah".
Fasting is meant to teach taqwa (piety). Piety defined as: Fearing Allah, Obedience to the commandmend of Allah, satisfaction with provisions, and surety of meeting with Allah on DOJ.
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Frustration is a feeling and emotion. Fardiya is right, only super-natural people can control it. Those who find the peace of heart and in mind can overcome it. Here we are talking about frustration with sense of deprivation, loss, jealousy, unthankfulness etc. These are deseases of heart (soul) not the organ. Our beloved prophet said in a sentence, "there is one peice of flesh in the body, if it is in good shape, every thing about the body is good, and if it is in bad shape, the whole body is in bad condition, and that is the heart." In another saying, he said, "...Iman (belief) is here and he pointed to his chest..." Cure for spiritual diseases is in spiritual upliftment. Fasting is supposed to help one achieve that higher level of spirituality. This is the month to remember Allah and seek closeness to him. rememberance doesn't mean uttering afew words and pecking some sujood, it means to remember our return to him and that all true powers are with Him. We worship him because Allah is the only Diety and we are happy with His decree.
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tolerance and accepting the fact that others may hold a diff point of view find fewer minds to occur in Pakistan. Most people hate something because somebody else does. Hate is a forbidden feeling for a Muslim against another Muslim. Unfortunately, pakis over react in disagreement, especially in the matters of religion. Vast majority of people can't even read or write but they are ready to give and take life on the words of some so called "spiritual leader". Most pray but don't even know what they are praying. I do not hate tableeghis, but i am not convinced with their way of tableegh. There are many good practising and good hearted muslims in the jamaat. I believe in complete submission to Allah in all aspects of life. Tableeghi jamaat folks have a different point of view. I respect their view but I disagree with it with love for my brothers and sisters in Islam.
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Ramadhan mubarak to all. Shab e barat is not really mentioned in any authentic hadith. Prophet (PBUH) used to fast three days, 13, 14, and 15th of each lunar month, including Sha'ban. Fasting on any day is good except the day of Eid. It is the practice of prophets to fast regularly in all months. It is also a practise of shahaba to fast in months and the whole month of Ramadhan. Someone said, we can't keep up with sahaba. I say only if we try we can get close to that. We try our best to look and act like movie and sports stars and such. Do we ever try to immitate Prophet(SAW) or his companions! Hardly! Give it a try, Allah will help!
